My 17 year old son loves his teacher. He talks about her all the time. He is always writing her love letters and saying how pretty she is. Just the other day she came to my house expressing an intrest in entering a serious relationship with my son. She says that she is very much in love with him and wants to one day become his wife. I'm not sure how I feel about this relationship, after all she is 65 years old. My husband says that I should shut up and let them date because it is his life. Should I let my son date his 65 year old teacher??
2006-11-28 05:15:33 · 43 answers · asked by flushing06 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Does the teacher or your son have their own personal collection of whips and chains like everyone else in your questions? lol
2006-11-28 15:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woah!
She is a ttal cradle robber, and it is your cradle she is robbing! He is only 17, and you must protect him. Sit them both down, tell them that until he turns 18, that you will do all you can to keep this mistake from happening. Tell your husband how you feel, and for him to not play against you, but rather not speak on it at all until your son is 18. 65 is WAY to old. Your son will miss out on a lot, including children. Threaten to go to the authorities if this relations begins while he is a minor, and she is his teacher. Do not let your son lose his life. He may resent you later. Love is strong! Lust is strong! but as his mother, you have to be stronger! Take the ole' fogie out to dinner and explain your feelings to her. She can only be using him at this age. I have first hand experience here. My father in law is 49, and his wife is 92. They married last year, and are in true love. If they were to consider this in their younger years, than I wouldve been disguisted!!!! My mother in law says that the thought wouldve never crossed her mind when he was a teen. Do what you have to, but dont allow this!
2006-11-28 06:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is only 17, then could this 65 year old granny be a pedophfile ? She could be charged with this. I agree with your husband. There is not much you can do about this. You son will outlive the 65 year old and probably she is rich. He is too young to realize what type of alife he will have. Yet, what can you do ? You can't control a Stallion when he is ready to mate. Let the Stallion run.
2006-11-28 05:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK here's what you do. You knock the **** out of him for telling you to shut up. Then you tell him you love him and that you will support him no matter who he loves. Let him date her if he must. He is going to do it regardless and you don't want to create a gap. More the likely this will pass. Although it is kinda gross and you will receive criticism from others they should just be glad that they don't have this issue. If he was younger you have absolute pull, but when i was 17 and my parents told me no i was hell bent in proving them wrong which led me t drop ut of school my Senior year and resort to stealing from wal-mart and home depot then returning them for cash back or at wal-mart store credit....food, smokes gas.......also in this serious of a situation you and your husband should be on the same page
2006-11-28 06:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by wombizzle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, 65 years old is alot of years apart, isnt she like already having her wrinkles,. no offense, so if she is 65 she must look pretty good for her age then,.... well yeah let him try what he wants because honestly if you tell him no and no all over again, he WILL turn his back to see her in any way, and let me just say the more you get upset at him the more he will just be angry and will continue with all of it you know.and then trust me if he really "loves" her and he wont be thginking and he will be upset then they will have sex and he will get her pregnate.
let him see her, do not argue with him, if it is a mistake, then he will soon realize it on his own......
love a girl named serina
2006-11-28 05:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by JUSTAGIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom, you need to step in right away. I can't believe she had enough nerve to even come to your home!! I'd tell her to stay away from my son or I will report her to the school board. I don't think she want's to ruin her pension and benefits when she retires. Unfortunately, when your son turns 18 - there isn't a hell of a lot that you can do about it. Good Luck to you SEMPER FI
2006-11-28 06:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Marine Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you let your 17 year old daughter date a 65 year old man? Or even a 35 year old man for that matter?? OMG NO!
2006-11-28 05:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by oneamy2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is a child. By no means should he be allowed to date this woman. When he turns 18 there is nothing you can do. Society frowns on an age difference like this but it's not really any of their business between two consenting adults.
Key word is "ADULT"
He is not an adult and therefore you make the rules.
2006-11-28 06:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as he is under 18 and living in your home, you have the say so. The teacher is like a grandmothers age, he may just be infatuated, seeking a mother/grandmother image type.
2006-11-28 05:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! What is this woman thinking? For pete's sake she's his teacher doesn't she know what happens when you get involved with a student and one that is still a minor! She's just asking for trouble. If I were you I'd get my son out of there and fast.
2006-11-28 05:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by k_crapo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋