shes constantly shouting at me...I HAVENT DONE **** TO ER! her mum left us when she was 12....IS SHE TAKIN OUT HER ANGER ON ME?! shes really out of control...
how do i get her to listen to me? she doesnt wanna hear it....
2006-11-28 05:14:29 · 23 answers · asked by aaron 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-11-28 05:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her when she's not upset. You can hardly get through to a teenager when they are outta control. When she is calm, go to her and tell her you love her. Let her know how bad you feel about the situation you both are in together. You guys are not alone because you have each other. Let her know it has made you vulnerable to a whole new situation and like it or not you're gonna have to help one and another. You are the injured party, too! she needs to be reminded of these few things. Don't use any foul language. If it helps you could write down how you feel and give it to her, along with a very big hug. Always try to communicate with your teen when they are calm-much easier-believe me! Oh, also try not shouting at her. When she starts shouting and you are calm and subdued, she may lower her tone. If not, you can start a rule: if you are speaking to me and I can hear you in another room, it's unacceptable! Good luck!
2006-11-28 05:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by kissgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling would help wonders, I'm sure she has abandonment issues. That, and she's 14, all 14 girls act like that, trust me, I was 14 not to long ago. Anyway, she isn't really mad at you, its just the teen thing. But I do think counseling would probably be beneficial. I am under the impression that everyone should have someone to talk to, i did, and it really helped me a lot.
On a side note, AWESOME!!! of you to assume the role of mom and dad!! I love the fact that there are still decent guys out there, you here to much about dead beat dads!!!
2006-11-28 05:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by Silly Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is acting out. Try to find some common intrests and try to spend some time with her. She's also at that age, she prob. thinks she knows it all and she's an adult now. I have a 12yr old boy who thinks he's 18. I don't know if she has any contact with her mother. Maybe she should. She might have a lot she needs to get off her chest, with you, mom, a good friend. Good Luck
2006-11-28 05:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by short 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is on the verge of becoming a woman yet she still thinks like a child at times. That's called puberty. The best thing you can do is express your feelings, establish the rules for a respectful relationship(that means you too), and make daily efforts to show her how much you love her.
2006-11-28 05:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya that sound like a 14, I never meet a 14 that's not nut. if they aren't then they will go nut later.
just be as supportive as you can. don't play her game. Try to show her only LOVE. she will hate that but let her anger out. I'll all be good. you only got 4 years of this.
2006-11-28 05:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she's 14 has everything to do with it. If anyone knew how to cure being a teenager, they could make a mint selling the secret!
2006-11-28 05:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 14...that's just it...her body is changing so much now and she is very confused. you're safe to take her anger out on now. she doesn't want to freak out her friends.
but it does hurt. tell her you will always listen to her but she needs to stop shouting.
it's a rough age...i hope it gets better
2006-11-28 05:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by mld122979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, dont give up on her, show her you care, and love her, give her space but know where she is at all times. make her stay home sometimes just to go to the movies. but do not give up! my friends were acting up, and doing bad things, and thier parents said ok to them going to live with thier sister. and thsy resented them for it. cuz they gave up, and when i was acting up my parents never gave up on me. i was grounded constantly for "f"ing up, and i am now a better person cuz they showed me that they cared. so when she yells, just keep your composure and tell her shes grounded. then if she is being nice tell her she can do something, its just hard for her to deal with her mom leaving. she might feel like it was her fault. or yous but show her she has to give respect in order to recieve it. coming from a 19 year old girl who went through it with her parents.
2006-11-28 05:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by harasgirl2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have ti have patience and just give her love and don't give up she just wants love and you need to do everything in your powe to tell her and show her that you are there for her just keep telling her she is loved and that you will be there for her and pray thats the best thing you can do is pray and belive me it works and have faith>>>
2006-11-28 05:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 14 so this behavior isn't exactly unique to her, but if I were you I would go for some family counseling.
2006-11-28 05:34:32 · answer #11 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋