This guy and I started out as friends. I knew he was due to get married, but the attraction was purely physical at the beginning. Now that I'm in love with him I am SAD to find out that there's no backing out of this scheduled, arranged or "fixed" marriage he has coming up in Feb. He says it's not arranged but that the circumstances surrounding it have basically turned it into a fixed marriage. What the hell should I do? Does anyone know of a way for a perston to get out of an Indian marriage? Why did we fall in love if he knew this was the case?
2006-11-28 05:13:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he has a choice. he is choosing to go with family and tradition.
he feels there is no other option. but there is.
he doesn't want to be with you enough to throw away all his family and history and everything they expect from this marriage. it's a big sacrifice. talk to him more deeply about
what it means to him and his family and why this marriage is
unavoidable. listen carefully to him and try to understand.
2006-11-28 05:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should bow out, and move on. If he really WANTS to get out of the marriage, he will find the way. If not - there isn't anything you can do to change things. Fall in love wiser next time - there are plenty of single available guys out there. Good luck.
2006-11-28 05:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did YOU fall in love if you knew what the case was? Don't blame it on him, it's just as much your fault. If he can't get out of the arranged marriage, you may as well move on now. Good luck.
2006-11-28 05:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him now and you not have to go through all the Divorce crap. We can find many to fall in love with. Do Not think he your only alternative. If you see no way to back out, then you have given in to his ways of slavery, just wait until you married. Good Luck.
2006-11-28 05:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it's a good advantage for him can u imagine that you knew is about to getmarried and still someone is giving attention although you know that it is sad for you , pls. wake up stop being so emotional baby. Face the reality ..
2006-11-28 19:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't help who and how you fall in love if it is true love...does he love you? maybe he doesn't want to disappoint his family..he may love the other girl more...and think you guys are just friends
2006-11-28 05:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Offer his family a cow.
2006-11-28 05:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by William S 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he should grow some testicles and tell his parents "No."
That might help.
2006-11-28 05:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋