2006-11-28 05:09:25 · 8 answers · asked by non active 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think this is a stupid question. no parent should have a favorite child. maybe you might connect with your children differently. maybe one of your children might like all the things you like, and the others arent interested...but you should never pick out a favorite. you'll just end up including one child in all activities and the others you'll ignore. maybe not on purpose but it will happen. and your other children will see it before you do, and that will make them develop a complex, which im sure you wont be able to talk them out of. especially if you dont realize what you've done until years down the line.
love jen.
2006-11-28 05:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jennie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids. Ages 8, 7 & 2 1/2. I don't think any parent has a favorite. I love my children all the same, but, for different reasons.
I grew up in a family with only 3 children also. I was/am the middle child. I always felt like since I was the middle child I was loved less than my sibblings, but, having 3 of my own now. I know that just isn't the case...well, I could have been for my mother..lol.
But, I love all of my children the same...but, for different reasons.
2006-11-28 14:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Amyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sickening for a parent to favor one child over another. When you talk about favoritism it's not about relating more with one child than another. If you relate so well with one child, what of the other? The time you spend with one child is time not spent with the other. While children do not think rationally like adults, they do have an innate sense of fairness, though their standards are not the same as adults.
My parents treated me and my brother differently. I was "spanked" as a form of punishment. My brother was only punished the few times when he actually tried to kill me, and then he just had his favorite thing taken away.. toy, game, etc. I ended up resenting my parents for not being, what i believed, was fair. Once, myself and my brother did the exact same thing (coming home late on a school night) but a week apart. I was punished for it.. he was not. It's things like that.. that scars a person's heart in their lifetime.
Because of my parents very apparent favoritism, my brother took that, as in invitation to hurt me. Ever since i was 7 years old, I've been nothing but a small punching bag to him. When my parents "spanked" me, it would sometimes leave bruises. When a spanking didn't leave a bruise, my brother would get angry, and beat up on me until i had one or two -.- From my own personal experience, nothing good comes of out treating children differently. It's not just the impact your own actions have on the child you Don't favor, it's the impact it has on the child you DO favor, and then how they relate to your other child (or children).
2006-12-01 00:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Zuki Mori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents aren't supposed to morally have a "favorite" child it is just wrong. The other child or children are most always terribly hurt emotionally by it. I used to tell each of my children they were my favorite, because.... for individual reasons, they are each my favorite.Each child is special in their own way.Love them equally and treat them all well.
2006-11-28 13:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two children and I love them the same. they are 10 years apart. My daughter was very sick when she was first born, and my son helped me alot with her..so i have a special place in my heart for him, but in turn I have a special place in my heart for my daughter because she was so very sick as an infant. They are now 24 and 14 and they both drive me nuts LOL I could never chose one child as my favorite.
2006-11-28 13:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that pretending that parents don't have favourites is just denial. My mother has always been clear that she loves all of us the same but she does have a favourite (which isn't me) but knows that I'm my Dad's favourite, and has discussed it with me. My Dad's parents' favourite is his older sister but he's still, of course, very precious to them
2006-11-29 23:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love both of my children easily, but if I was my mom I would pick my brother out of 4 because he is going to make something out of his life that is great. With my children I love my children both, I wouldn't decided, because both of them are terrors and loving half and half.
2006-11-28 14:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son, mainly because he's a little hellion
2006-11-28 13:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Hurley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋