This question only applies to first time mothers, please share your experience with me...
2006-11-28 05:04:56 · 16 answers · asked by poppyma B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
simple answer 'you dont'
-it's the scariest thing i ever did, the hardest thing i ever did....but the most rewarding, selfless and fullfilling thing i've ever done...( and i'd be a liar if i didn't say at times the most frustrating thing..).and this comes from someone who isn't an earth mother type (if such a type exists...) my family were astounded and completely bemused by the fact when i told them i was pregnant....but now i say my son makes me laugh, he makes me cry and just when i think i cant do this....makes me laugh again... i have no regrets.
2006-12-01 08:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by manda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married. So why would that not make me ready?
just had to get that in, i am however in a stable relation ship of 11 years, we have a house, we are financially stable (well until we go out and blow it on something) we are having our baby in about 8 weeks.
Am i ready? Hell no!
my answer would have to be, when someone hands you that little bundle! all the time you are pregnant (i am mid twenties by the way, not a child) you worry about life, the baby, money, time, work, the baby some more!
at the end of the day, when you get pregnant, you worry, i have been informed that to some degree, this will last until you are 6 feet under. you can never be truly ready, there will always be hard days, just ride them out and the good ones will make it worth it!
2006-11-29 16:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by mummyjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when you know that youre out of school and you have a job not living with your parents and you have a special person in youre life who is ready to be a dad. That is how you know. Every one thinks that it is easy to be a parent but it is not.Do me a favior above all else that I have said ok. when you go to bed to night ok, set an alarm for two hours after you are going to bed. get up when it goes off. Stay up for 20 min. then set the alarm for maybe an hour and a half again then get up for 20 min. Then go to your alarm and do 2 hours more then keep repeating it until you are up for the day. Then if you are ready to handel that for about 4months then you might be ready. Do this for a week and see how you feel. Then if you handel it and then you will be ready cause that is a newborns routine. And this is with my first child.
2006-11-28 13:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your ever quite ready until it happens. Then you either have it or don't. Things are hard at first but if you can get through those first few weeks then you have it made. A good mother doesn't have to have all the money in the world or the nicest house but LOVE.
2006-11-28 13:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will ever be "READY" to be a mother. But when you want a baby so much it almost hurts, or when you are walking down the street and you notice every single baby, or when you go to a friends house and the kids are screaming and mis-behaving and when you leave all you can think of is "I want that" THEN you are ready. That's what happened to me... I wish you the best of luck, and hope this helped :-)
2006-11-28 13:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can ever be 'ready' a you have no idea what it is like till it happens. I got pregnant by accident, while on the pill in a serious relationship, and am now gld I didnt 'plan' it as I think you never really feel ready.. But being finacially, emotionally and mentally secure is a must.
2006-11-28 14:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ktloop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your question, im now 30 years old, married and we are pregnant with our first baby (15 weeks), but all the people (other mums, including family members) have told me just a few things........
a) nothing prepares you in life for parenthood,
b) its the best thing ever and
c) that all the people i spoke to will never change their life with children for anything in the world.
i agree with basically what everyone else has said, you got to want to be a parent, you should find someone who loves you and would love to have a family and you should at least wait until you are a financially stable before having a family.
I'm not sure if this answers your question but I hope it helps.
2006-11-28 18:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL!!! I don't know if there is every really a point when you feel that! When they turn 2 and the terrible twos start, a lot of us still question it!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
But seriously, for me, I knew I always wanted to have kids, but I knew that day wouldn't be until I was married and stable. That doesn't necessarily mean financially...because, well..let's be honest.....if you wait until you financially set, you could be waiting forever.
2006-11-28 13:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by retrowfmk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can take care of yourself and another individual unconditionally. Financially stable, for self, because a baby daddy doesn't always stay around, whether it be in marriage or relationship, know that motherhood is a personal feeling that is gut wrenched, unselfish and a lifelong career.
2006-12-02 04:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knew for a while I could be a mother. i've been around kids all my life. I just wasn't "ready" in my mind. but we got pregnant on accident and I couldnt' be more excited!!!
2006-11-28 13:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋