I know a 26 year old single girl who lives with her parents. She thinks she's never going to get married. She is in the process of adopting a Vietnamese baby. I'm sure the baby will be better off with her than in an orphanage, but does anyone see the living situation as strange? I plan on supporting her however I can...even if I may not agree. I'm not sure if I agree or not. It doesn't matter if I do. It's really not my place. I'd just like to hear others' opinions.
2006-11-28 05:00:01 · 16 answers · asked by april_hwth 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm not gossiping. None of you know who she is or who I am. Silly
2006-11-28 05:10:38 · update #1
her parents are young.
she makes plenty of money
2006-11-28 05:11:20 · update #2
I think when you decide to have your own kids..whether naturally or adopted.. it's time to move out of your parents house. You say she is financially ok, so why is she still there? Does she just want a play mate? She should move out on her own to raise her own family. Does she plan on her parents being the sitters for this child, do they want kids living in the house too.. she should move out and grow up if she is going to raise her own.
2006-11-28 06:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her living with her parents is probably a much better situation for the baby than her living alone with the adopted child because she will have the support and assistance of both of ther parents, providing they support what she is doing.
Our culture tends to see the familty unit as man/woman/child, but its really very healthy to have additonal generations and extended family involved with childrearing and socialization. Think of how much her parents will have to offer both her and the baby while they are all together. And vice versa.
I think your plan to support her no matter of your own feelings is the mark of a true friend. She's really lucky to have you in her life.
Best wishes!
2006-11-28 05:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 07:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not the expert here, but has any agency done a background/screening on you?? I think it would depend upon your reasons for living at home versus out on your own.
I would guess that it would be easier to adopt if you were on your own and had the financial stability. I know my SIL had to go through some major $$ and red tape to adopt and she is married, stable, and they make some great cash.
2006-11-28 05:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by retrowfmk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess there are more questions to be answered here: is she only living with her parents still becasue she's not married? can she afford to live on her own? are her parents ill and she cares for them? If she's able to afford an adoption and there's room for herself and a baby at her parents, why not? But 26 is still young there's still hope if she's looking for the marriage + children route! To each their own.
2006-11-28 05:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by mom_a_Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the woman will take good care of the child, and the woman's parents will also help and want the child to be part of their family I see nothing wrong with it. Having 2 good "grandparents" should make up for the lack of a "daddy".
2006-11-28 05:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strange. If she has enough $$$ to adopt, she should be out on her own at that age. 26 is pretty young so I dont understand why she would think she is an old maid.
2006-11-28 05:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The living arrangements are different, but not bad. The baby will have not just a mom, but also granparents. It's always better if a baby can have more than just a mom or dad. So, I think it's awesome.!!!
2006-11-28 05:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless your parents want to have an active role in raising the child.
2006-11-28 05:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by bill d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not up to you or I to agree. Be careful on speaking about someone else's life because you never know what situation you will be in that is no one else's business but your own. Look to the positive of what she is doing: lifetime in an orphanage or being loved by someone who wants you. . .Karma is a funny thing, be careful of what you think isn't right in someone else's life because life will humble you. . .
2006-11-28 05:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋