Well it like this, everytime when I'm alone with my boyfriend or whateva I get this feeling , but I know he get it to, but the problem is that I'm just not ready and I don't know when I will be, but I also don't want to lose him. We been together for 6 years and everything been going great, but I know he is tired of waiting, but I don't want him to get it from nobody else either. I really just want to know how will I know when I'm ready...........................
2006-11-28 04:48:41 · 40 answers · asked by charliette_berry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your not ready then your not ready. If he's been waiting this long, a little longer won't matter. And if he's not willing to wait until your ready that's his problem not yours!
2006-11-28 04:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not something to be thrown around lightly in my opinion. Especially your first time, you want it to be meaningful, with someone you love and trust. The questions you should ask yourself are:
1) Do I know this person inside and out? This is important because most people will only show you their good side in the beginning, and you won't find out the problems until much later.
2) Am I prepared for the risks involved? No matter how careful you are, there's always the chance of getting pregnant, so you should seriously consider whether you are happy with the guy being your baby's father.
The first one is probably OK for you. If you've been with him six years, I think it's safe to say he's the real deal. The second one is a big decision, and it may not even be an issue, but if you can honestly say yes to both those questions then I think you are ready.
2006-11-28 05:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by zak_track 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are ready, but don't do it for the wrong reasons. Sex just to keep from losing someone is the wrong reason. Instead, do it because you WANT to, because the person really TURNS YOU ON.
19 years old is old enough to decide to have sex or not.
I think its kinda strange to have a boyfriend for 6 years and not have sex with him....but since that means you got together at 13, then its not so unusual.
Its really unusual to have a boyfriend from 13 to 19 though!!!! I've never even heard of that happening before...
(People make sex into too big of a deal, put it on a pedestal, etc eetc....if you're an adult, then do what you feel!!!)
2006-11-28 05:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by wavemage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you'll just know. don't do it to keep him though cause young puppy love does end @ one point or another. 6 years is a long time. i'd rather have done it with a dude whom i was with for that deep. it's like this after it happens you gunna have a whole **** load of other problems and you'll be very very compfortable with this person to the point that you might want to marry the guy! Just remember love is some heavy shiat once fuqqing is involved thing's get all emotional & dramatic. bound to start sooner or later. The reason why your hesitant is cause your scared; something new an unexplored territory. when your ready you'll know and you seem to have control of that! you've waited longer than most but you know ultimately that you hold the cards! keep it that way, for yours is sacred right now still. my sister is apparently a 30 year old virgin and she might marry this dude who's like in love with her! And i think it's cause she's a virgin.
2006-11-28 05:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by neesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not the determining factor...I know many 20+ year olds that shouldn't be having sex...They are not ready for a mature relationship.....When the time is right, you will know!!! If your boyfriend has stuck around for 6 years you should be close enough to have a mature conversation about the subject. Talk to him, when the time is right, make it special with a special person.
2006-11-28 04:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by The Cheminator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to look at it is that you are old enough to have sex when you are mature enough to understand and accept the possible results of having sex, which is possibly getting pregnant. Sure there is protection, but it is a possibility. So, are you prepared to deal with being pregnant, and having a baby? Are you prepared to change your life to support and raise a child if it happened? Is this a person you are willing to be tied to the rest of your life as the father of your child? Can you financially support a child? These are tough questions that people don't think about because they don't think they will get pregnant, but when they do, they are totally unprepared and their lives are not always the great dream they thought it would be.
2006-11-28 05:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Barry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways of satisfying him than sex.
They work for a while, but there is no substitute for the real thing.
If you aren't going to marry him let him go and find someone else.
Remember that abstinence was much easier when you got married at age 14. Times have changed. If you are a 26 YO virgin you are wasting your life.
2006-11-28 05:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know when you are ready...and you won't have to ask anyone other than yourself :)
I'm proud of you for staying true for 6 years...is your bf a virgin also?
Don't rush into anything you are not ready for--whether or not that means losing him...
if he broke up with you for that reason, you'd be better off without him.
He should be proud to be with such a lady in this day when no one seems to have morals anymore :)
2006-11-28 04:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally I am saving myself til marriage because that is what it says in the bible but if you want to do it before marriage because you are afraid of losing him then first off let me tell you if he is gonna leave you because you wont let him get it then he never was in the relationship because he loves you but how I see it if he has waited all this time and he is still by your side he might be there with you til you are ready. and you know that you are ready when you find the person you love the only person you think about all the time the person you see yourself being with then you know you are in love and readyt o give it to him because you trust him and you know that you love him and he love you
2006-11-28 04:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll just know. There is not special age and if he's truly the one for you and truly loves you then he'll wait forever for you. Maybe you'll feel more ready if you are married. If he's waited that long then what's a couple more years.
2006-11-28 04:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋