A lot of people have told me that although I am feeling it, he might be scared off or just not ready to say it back. We have only been together for 4 months and so maybe I should wait till we have gone through thick and thin to decide my feelings. But I know by Christmas I will be bursting inside with impatience and sadness if I cannot tell him. Is it true that guys should say it first? How long will it take before he propably will feel the same? He tells me he is crazy about me and always thinks about me and wants me. He even made me Thanksgiving dinner and loves my morning face. Is that a clue he is getting near it???
2006-11-28 04:46:27 · 18 answers · asked by vada 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NEVER tell a man that you love him first! Not only can it scare him away but it shows weakness on your part! Let him say it first, it will mean so much more when he does. Otherwise if you say it and he says it back how will you know he truly meant it!
2006-11-28 04:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
An interesting question you pose.
Through experience I have learnt that telling somebody you love them too early in a relationship can have negative consequences, not always of course. It's as though relationships almost always go through a "testing and finding out" stage. As if we are programmed to slowly reveal intimate aspects of ourselves gradually, over time. This is what makes the early stage of a relationship so exciting, a bit like waiting for xmas. Have you ever had someone tell you they love you after just a few dates? Or buy you presents, flowers etc within the early stages of a relationship? It can be nice (nobody ever bought me flowers by the way) but a bit overpowering can't it? It's as though human nature likes us to test each other out and play the game of dating. ie reveal your hand too soon and the game loses it's excitement and the challenge hads gone.
Having said all of the above I believe four months is a reasonable time to tell someone you love them. It seems like he is very fond of you. Go ahead and tell him. As long as you don't go falling all over him every day and wanting to be with him constantly then I see no problem. It's wonderful!
Michael
2006-11-28 05:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that way, then(and this may sound corny) follow your heart. If its telling you to tell him, then tell him. A guy does not need to say it first. I had been dating my ex for about 4 months, when we got into this huge fight, and out of nowwhere, I just blurted out I love you. He said it back, and long story short, we were together for 5 years, and even though were are not dating anymore, we still talk. Sometimes guys are afraid to show thier feelings, and I think in this day and age, women should be able to express thiers. Besides, I dont think you have anything to worry about, cause it sounds like he is already fallen for you. Good Luck!!
2006-11-28 04:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Silly Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he might be already in love with you, but you have to wait, I'm going through the same thing now, I feel that I love my GF and she does too, we both avoid this word for now, coz it's a bit early, so take your time , it gives me a sort of pleasure not to say the words for now , but act like it, one day the words will come out , so don't rush yourself.. take a deep breath and wait for your man to say them first .
2006-11-28 04:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and see what he says and go from there love is tricky ive failed at it many of time and im working on a relationship that is in some rocky territory right now best thing is to talk and be honest and all things will work them selfs out
2006-11-28 04:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Know what you totally mean. i didn't want to be the first one to tell my boyfriend that i Loved him i wanted him to be the first one to say. But i just couldn't hold it in anymore so i decided to tell him even though he didn't tell me it felt like it was the right thing to do. It took him a week or two to tell me that he loved me but i was glad that he told when he felt it was the right moment to do it and not feel pressured to say it cause i told him. Go for it if you really feel like you can't hold it in anymore! : )
2006-11-28 04:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by susan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe,he obiviously loves you.
The way I see it ,there's nothing wrong with telling someone that you care,it's just a way of expressing yourself.
If you want him to say it first,throw him hints...but I guess he already told you that by making you feel extra special.
Good luck and best wishes :)
2006-11-28 04:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say it like you don't mean it. I know that may sound wrong but if he does something funny or something, laugh and say "i love you." that will make him think about it but not scare him away. That way he is not forced to say it back. Then he will start to like ya more and will say it back eventually
2006-11-28 04:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,d say so but wait a month to tell him and see if he say,s he love,s you if he has not then go ahead and tell him
2006-11-28 04:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by csm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait to tell him..it sounds as though he is really into you
2006-11-28 04:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋