He’s 36 years old and is very over weight and I am almost 100% sure it’s cause of the alcohol. He drinks virtually every day. He is depressed almost all the time I see him and always talks about how much his life sucks. He lives at home with his mom and dad.
I try to be a good influence and tell him to quite drinking and he will lose the weight, save money, move out of the parents house, etc. I also told him that if he keeps it up he will be dead in the next ten years. I’m concerned cause he is my brother.
2006-11-28 04:40:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Unfortunately, it is a difficult matter to help somebody stop doing something they want to do. Your advice and support are pretty much all you can give. Coming from a long line of over indulgers in alcohol I can relate to the tragedy you endure. A positive spin on his lifestyle is all you can really expect to provide. The decision to stop drinking must be his unless he is a minor. The only effective treatment aside from 'quitting cold turkey' is professional intervention. This is predicated on the notion that one wishes to become sober. Without that, all is lost.
2006-11-28 04:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can't make him stop. Only he can do that, and only after he realizes he has a problem with alcohol.
Alcohol is a depressant, and most alcoholics become depressed.
That he has low motivation could indicat that he has a real problem; but again, if he doesn't recognize it, you won't be able to help.
I suggest you check out a program such as Al Anon, which is a group for people affected by people with alcohol problems. They can offer more advice than I'll be able to offer.
You might want to check out the AA web site. They have a pamphlet that has a quiz to determine if you actually have a problem with alcohol. If you go to thier web site, in the navigation bar you'll see a section called "Is AA for you?" Click on that, and on the left you'll see a heading called Is AA for you? (about the 5th selection down). This is an online quiz to help a person find out for themselves how their drinking might be alcoholic.
AA is usually about the first listing in most telephone books, so it's not hard to find.
Remember though. YOU CANNOT CHANGE THIS PERSON. It's up to them.
2006-11-28 04:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 07:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a alcoholic. And there is nothing you can do about it. Your parents need to tell him "Either go into treatment/rehab right now, or you have to move out right now."
They are making it possible for him to continue with this horrible existence. They need to stop it. Then it's all up to him. But he has to go into to treatment.
2006-11-28 04:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is continue to be supportive. He has to be the one that decides to quit and until he does there's not really much you can do. Just let him know your there if he needs you and will be no matter what happens. My mom and dad were both alcoholic's.
2006-11-28 05:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to want to change for himself. No amount of badgering, threatening, begging, etc will do any good until he is ready to stop drinking and/or do something about his weight.
Until then...all you can do is love him and be supportive and try to be a positive influence.
2006-11-28 04:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your family have an intervention with him. But most of all Alcoholics can only help them selves. You could maybe lead him there but its him that need to know what he wants. He needs to tell himself that he needs help. Its the only way...
2006-11-28 05:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no easy fixes for this. You can't make him stop he will have to want to do this on his own. You can suggest rehab/detox, but agian that will only go so far, he is the one who has to want to stop and change.
2006-11-28 04:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don't think you can make him - but maybe get some AA literature, and see if he will read it, or go to a meeting.
2006-11-28 04:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Derek K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing u can do for him until he decides he wants to stop drinking.
2006-11-28 04:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋