2006-11-28 04:35:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Explain to your parents that it is very important for you to go where you want to. Make a list of reasons why the university of your choice will be the best for you and your family and use that as ammunition. You will resent them if they succeed in convincing you to stay.
I chose to pass up a scholarship at an excellent university to stay in town and go to the local university because it is what my parents wanted me to do. I have regretted the decision and resented my parents for it ever since.
2006-11-28 04:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by elisabeth's anatomy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 and odds are they are paying for it, helping here and there, you probably live with them, etc. Maybe they worked hard to put the money together for you and a top university is going to cost big bucks. Plus going to a top unviversity usually doesn't make a big difference in the real world, especially if you are transfering this late in the game. So if you have a really good reason, and have great grades ( a 4.0 at a middle of the road institution carries far more weight than a 3.0 at a top notch one....i.e. the classes will be harder) stick it out for two years as its doubtful you have really good reasons to go.
2006-11-28 13:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that you are trying to better yourself and you will have a better chance at doing that going to a top university. Let them know that there are vacations and phone calls and that no matter how far away you are at school you are only a phone call and plane ride away. Though as a parent myself. I know I don't want my kids to be far away from me as well, but I would not want to hold them back to live their lives. As long as I know they are safe and responsible I would have to let them go. Though I would be out there a lot to visit.
If they dont go for that look into a top university in you state.
Good Luck.
2006-11-28 12:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 20 I would have though you are old enough to make this decision for yourself. The fact of the matter is that your parents cannot control you life anymore so go and do whatever you like
2006-11-28 12:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by Amberlady (Pagan Historian) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you want the best schooling like they gave best love when you where growing up. Tell them you are growing up and that's the circle of life, people have child for a short time and they leave and make their own lives. My mom couldn't stand my brother until he left
2006-11-28 14:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are already old enough to make your own decisions and you should have a good talk with them and let them know how you really feel about them telling you where you should go or live. So really have a talk with them it will probably work out great.. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-28 12:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by Traicionera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 20, right? Make your own decision - although you may have to do so without the support or financial aid of your folks. Part of growing up.
2006-11-28 12:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by kentata 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go where you want to go. Trust me on this. When I was 18 and heading off to college I picked a major that I didn't have my heart set on and went to a school that my dad wanted me to go to. I didn't realize I had choices.
You do what your HEART tells you to do. You don't want to end up like me, 15 years later, wishing she had known about other options.
2006-11-28 15:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to stop being selfish they had there time to fly now it's your time to fly!
You have other ways of keeping intouch!
Your 20 so it's your call!
if they are paying for it just tell them thanks and you will not let them down! but you would raither do this now while they are alive so if you happen to fall flat on your face and you can't make it! you have somewhere to go to !
if you wait and do it later then where would you go for sure!
Seperation is hard! they have to let you go!
tell them it's selfish of them to keep you here!
Your starting your life and most of all it's for SCHOOL!!
Good luck!
Just express how you feel to them i'm sure they would understand!
2006-11-28 12:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're paying for it, then they gets to call the shots...of course you are 20 and legally an adult by 2 years here (USA)....so I could tell you to grow up and get a job and go wherever the heck you want for college...OR I could tell you to do what mom and pops want you to do....of course, you'll be doing that for the rest of your life....hmmmmm...tough call kid.
2006-11-28 12:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋