Telling a girl the truth about why I don't like her?

Question

Should I tell this girl the truth or not?
I was at a party when this girl that is a friend of a friend was talking to me, now I wasn't flirting I was just being my normal self,.but I in no way was trying to hook up with her. Well as the night went on she came out of no where and tried to kiss me, i began to push her away but my friend interruped it like as soon as it started, it was one of thoes split second things so she thinks that I stopped because of him...but honestly I just didn't want to. Now she got my number from my friend and calls me asking me to hang and she tells me how funny and cool I am and how we should go out. she admits she likes me but i told her im not looking for a relationship. She wants to know why,She says we can just "hook up" w/ no strings Should I tell her its because she is overweight and I find that really unnattractive, because thats the truth. It grosses me out.She obviously wants some explanation. and the more parties i see her at the more she tries

And please...spare the im an ****** stuff. She is getting very annoying and clingy. She even gets kinda jealous with her friends if they flirt with me...

Answer 1

Tell her the truth bro...The whole "Gay" thing will backfire on ya because then she will tell everyone you know and then people will think your gay....Tell her the truth...I would rather people think that im an ****** for telling the truth...then think that im a fag for lying.

Answer 2

Tell her that you're just not into her. Don't make it any more complicated than it has to be. She's already at the cusp of that "fatal attraction" line. I would agree to leave the weight thing out of it. Simply tell her she's not your type. And make her feel like that no strings attached hook-up is better left alone for her own benefit. Kudos to you for not accepting that offer, b/c even though you're not feelin her some guys would still try to go there.

Answer 3

This is coming from someone who is not overweight, but no supermodel either...if you arent attracted to heavier girls then you just arent....everyone has different opinions about what beauty is and that is that...I dont think any less of your opinion...remember "judge not lest you be judged"...just tell her bluntly that she isnt your type (if she doesnt give it up then tell her what you told us, about being overweight and unattractive to you) and leave it at that if she is not catching on to your hints. How subtle are you being? I hope you arent leading her on...but some girls think that if they keep on long enough the guy will change his mind....She sounds rather aggressive so it is time for you to be assertive. If you hurt her feelings then so be it, you cant go through life without having your feelings hurt or hurting someone else thats just the way it is...

Answer 4

I suggest that you be kind, but be firm. You seem like a guy that knows what he wants (or in this case what he doesn't want). She seems to have developed some fantasy related to being with you, and it's great that you don't want to string her along. She can't lose the weight overnight, and telling her the truth is going to be painful--and she'll probably be angry. She seems alittle too aggressive--you sure you want to deal with an angry fat girl? So....if you can't avoid her make up some other lame excuse and stick with it. Maybe you have a nerdy friend you could introduce her to in order to take her attention away from you. Good Luck

Answer 5

Do NOT tell her you don't want to hook up with her because she's overweight. That would cause some unnecessary damage. Just tell her that you're sorry, but it just isn't going to happen. You don't need to offer any other explanation. If she really pushes for some reason, tell her you just aren't attracted to her in a sexual way. That should be enough.

Answer 6

I feel your pain brother!
Don't tell her she is fat and discusting. Please don't tell her that. IF you want to be honest and direct tell her that she is being clingy and you don't want to get into a casual relationship with someone like that, Say you've been in this situation before and it won't work out for you and someone will eventually get hurt. Or if you need to be even more direct just tell her that you are not attracted to her. In both cases you are being honest but are not being brutal about it.

The shorter you keep it, the less bull$hit you will have to come up with and lie about.

Answer 7

no never tell a girl that. girls have their way of getting even, trust me. she will tell all her friend and rumours will be spread in less then 5 mins and no one will want 2 go out with u and evryone will hate u. just say srry i dont like u and y do u need a reason, tell me is there a reason u like me then y should there be a reason y i dont like u. tell her that and if she doesnt stop buggin u then tell u no wat maybe the reason is because u wont stop bugin meh and i mean it. im srry if im hurting ur feeling but ur making me angry and that a feeling so if ur going 2 cuz me 2 have a certain feeling like anger, annoyance, frustraition, and all that then maybe i should cause u the feeling of hurt, so stop buggin meh. never ever tell a girl its because of how they look k if u need more info add meh right now at [e-mail] il go on now so go on and ill give u more info and answer ur questions k

Answer 8

You don't owe her an explanation. That would be mean to tell her she's fat or ugly; you would just make an enemy needlessly. You have to be polite but firm in telling her that you're not interested in "hooking up" with her. Don't beat around the bush; tell her flat out: "please don't call me anymore, I do not wish to be contacted". You have to be clear, some people don't get subtle hints. Also, have a chat with a friend of yours about giving out your number without your consent.

Answer 9

Tell Her
"HEY, honestly, I dont like you, I dont find you attractive. You can call me, talk to me, party with me, but dont get attached. Its not that I wouldnt like you, but I'm honestly having too much fun as a single party animal. I dont want someone being mad cuz I go out. And even if you say you wont, I know you will cuz you are jealous of your own friends. I'm not into that whole jealousy thing. Just drop it, find someone who will like you too. Heck, I'll introduce you to some friends of mine."

That should get her off.. If it dont work.. Tell her to fu ck off.
That should work.
or
a-change your number
b-move out of the country
c-kill her

Answer 10

You have to mean to be kind sometimes. I know its harsh but you definitely have to tell her that you are not attracted to her so that she stops bothering you. There's no need to tell her she's overweight but just that she is not your type. If she asks what your type is then give her some names of famous people you like so that she gets the picture.

Answer 11

Just tell her you're not interested. I would steer clear of telling her it's because she's overweight, though. She might get angry and although that would be a way for her to leave you alone, I don't think you'd want to hurt her self-esteem by telling her that. You could always tell her you're gay....