When I used to care for women, and be the perfect gentlemen regarless of it the women was nice or not, I kind of got the cold shoulder and no date, no number no nothing.
But now that I have changed a bit and treat women a little bit less nice and I'm more of an asshole, now women want to be with me?
Are you kidding me, I don't want to be this way to women, but it's the only way they will date me, I don't understand this and this is regardless of how nice the women is.
Are you confused?
2006-11-28 04:20:09 · 21 answers · asked by crazyinsane0000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't try to figure women out, that way just leads to madness.
Just be yourself, if you are a nice guy, then be a nice guy. If you are an a$$hole, then be one.
If a woman can tolerate you for being you, then that is the best you can hope for. The last thing you want is to have a woman fall for something that you are not.
2006-11-28 04:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that by being an asshole to women just so they'll date you, all you're doing is perpetuating the problem you're complaining about, right?
All you're doing is reinforcing the thought in their minds that nice guys suck and aren't worth their time. Assholes are where it's at! You're also reinforcing the stereotype that ALL men are jerks. If you're a nice guy, continue to be a nice guy. Not all women in the world are attracted to assholes. There are also a lot of women who are, but just don't know any better because all the men in their lives have disrespected them. Or are pretending to be jerks just to get a date.
2006-11-28 04:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Elementary my boy; women want 1) a challenge, 2) someone tough enough to provide/protect, and 3) excitement.
Clearly, you're too easy to get, so must not be that good if you are interested in them (and them only).
So the their first choice is a "bad boy" that they can control and convert into a nice man dedicated to them (ha ha, will they ever learn?).
After they have been hurt/humiliated enough times, then they look for a real man, a gentleman.
2006-11-28 04:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by luv2help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not confusion, its stupidity.... believe me, I used to be one of those women, always going for the asshole, its because we don't know any better. Think we don't deserve better, the younger the woman, more than likely the bigger the prick.... I'm going to be 37 and I realized last year that all my choices were stupid. Sad isn't it...... If you're nice, we start thinking, "I don't deserve him" But don't give up, there are some out there that are looking for a perfect gentleman.
2006-11-28 04:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Notorious Pink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice is to just be you and not worry so much about getting dates. Eventually a good woman who wants to be treated right will come your way. Only insecure women want to be with nasty men. A secure woman will wait until she has met a good man to be in a relationship.
2006-11-28 04:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its very strange isn't it?? I think if you get the right balance of naughty and nice guy your onto a winner. We like a bit of rough becuase we want to know that you 1. stand up for yourself 2. are not intimidated by us and 3. keep us on our toes. But we also need to know that you are a soft cuddly bear underneath. Maybe its a survival thing, like we need a strong man to protect us when we are vunerable and we need a man who is senitive enough to understand our emotional needs.
2006-11-28 04:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Gaia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like men, about 9 out of 10 women are not worth your time. Find the one who is and be the man you want to be.
2006-11-28 04:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jon O 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah thats coz women cant trust a person who appears to be too perfect.We often get attracted to flaws as we assume he is someone who behaves himself and doesnt attempt to be too perfect.But You are perfect just as you are.This fact is kinda hard for us believe coz we think this guy is indeed pretending to be perfect gentleman just to make a huge impression or please us.Anyways,guys like you are unique and too hard to find.Just keep going the way you are,I bet your true nature will attract a real woman.
2006-11-28 04:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sir, we are very confused, we women seem to be atrcted to only butt heads(putting it nicely) because they don't make gentlemen (as you say you were)anymore. I have been through plenty of not-so-nice men, I seem to be attrcted to them!(lol) And usually when a man is nice to his woman, there is usually a catch,like he messed up, or he wants something his better half prob. wouldnt aprove of!
2006-11-28 04:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey woman may say they want to be treated nicely but they don’t. That is really the truth. They do and want to be treated like SH**.
Here is the test. Treat them like SH** by opening up to all there imperfection then give them an chose of stay or go follow up a silence treatment. They’ll get confuse but they’ll come back to you. It always works. It’s because they have low self-esteems and by you wanting them you lowering your self to there level of imperfection and they hate that.
That’s why girls like bad boys.
2006-11-28 04:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋