I met this amazing guy back in the summer, we've been officially dating for about two months now. Never met someone who has honestly made me feel so great. I actually trust him, I know he'd never hurt me (trust me I've been through my share of guys and know a good one when one comes around). Ever since I met him he's been planning on moving to Mexico to live in December, but now he's appealling his WCB case (workers comp. board) and it may be end of Jan or Feb now that he MAY move. He said he's torn because he met me etc... I'm the kind of person who is spontaneous, I'll just jump in both feet. Would it be totally crazy for me to move to Mexico with him (he's jokingly asked me a couple times already, "How about you just move to Mexico with me?"). I am 24. My job allows me to work from anywhere that has internet connection. I'm from Western Canada so Mexico isn't that far (Puerto Vallarta). Any suggestions or thoughts?
2006-11-28 04:18:27 · 34 answers · asked by Cynthia 604 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. I've been to Mexico many times, I do speak spanish
2. He's not a deadbeat, he invests in real estate, bought a house for his parents to live in
3. My job is flexible I can work from anywhere and I would not be supporting him as he has more money than I do
4. Trust me I've been in the honeymoon state before, 24 may seem young but ultimately none of you know me (I'm not taking your advice as threats, just keeping that into consideration)
I do appreciate all the answers thus far. But from this point on I'd like only answers from people who are risk takers for their honest opinion if that's at all possible. People who like adventure, who like to experience new things. Thank you again all...
2006-11-28 04:45:29 · update #1
It sounds like you have a job that is meant for taking advantage of opportunities like these!
Here are a couple pieces of advice: although you don't have reason to distrust him, still take precautions. Make sure you have a back-up plan. Make sure you know where the US Embassy is, contacts in the US have your address in Mexico, and I would reccomend getting your own place (an apartment or house) near his, but not living together. Living expenses should be a lot cheaper there so it shouldnt be a problem. The reason is, it wont be such a dramatic difference, you wont be living on top of each other and research shows that couples who move in before marriage (if it ever gets that far) are more likily to divorce than couples who have never lived together.
Also, its still a couple of months away, and a lot can happen in a couple months. So wait it out and see if you guys are still into each other closer to the time he leaves.
It sounds like fun... youre young and in a good situation to do it, so go for it! Because of your job, if things don't work out you can always move back. Just think of it as a an extended vacation, one which you dont know how long its going to last. And make it clear to him that youre doing it partly for him, and partly because you want the adventure. :) Good luck and have fun!
2006-11-28 04:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Snowboard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think moving there is necessarily bad. Just think it all the way through. If you got there and things didn't work out, would you be able to move back to Canada with no major issues? Will you be supporting him while his WCB case is decided?
Plan for the worst case scenario. If it is not so bad, just a plane trip back to Canada, then the upside of being with an amazing guy is not such a big risk.
You are young, I say go for it. You only live once. Live aggressively but just do it wisely.
2006-11-28 04:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by ciza29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've only been dating this person for 2 months. I am afraid you're still in the honeymoon stage and you're still young. You still have until May to think about htis one. it just depends how the relationship goes from now until May. get to know him still and if u think the relationship is not going anywhere, don't go. but i do gotta tell you that Puerto Vallarta is a nice place. Good luck!
2006-11-28 04:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider relocating for someone I'd only been dating a couple of months...however if your job is THAT flexible, and you'd have a "Plan B" to fall back on should the relationship not work out, then why not go for it?
Just make sure you've got some place to live or go to if Mexico doesn't work out for you.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 04:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have anything to lose (children), go for it. Since you are an independent woman who is capable of supporting herself, you will not have to depend on this man for survival. If you like adventure, do it. If the relationship is lasting, great! If the relationship doesn't work out then you have will have had an interesting adventure.
2006-11-28 04:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you don't consider such options until you go together gor some more time. But if you are really comfortable with him and are confident of yourself and can stand on your own legs, go ahead and take the plunge...it could be exciting. And anyway you have your job in hand. All the best.
2006-11-28 04:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jose M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, after TWO months?? I would definately not move to another country for someone that I've known for two months. Two years, maybe. 20 years would be more like it - And it's MEXICO, where are you going to work? Do you speak Spanish?
If you do, bring your own water - I've heard it's not good there.
2006-11-28 04:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!
I moved to CA after only knowing my boyfriend for 6 months (he told me all these things like he would always love me...blah blah) and dropped out of school and everything.
We are getting a divorce right now. It's not worth it honey - trust me! That sounds EXACTLY like what I had going on when I moved for him. He totally ruined my life - don't let it happen to you!
2006-11-28 04:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really is kinda difficult. i do not comprehend if there is an surely way you'll locate her. perchance in case you knew her actual handle right here contained in the city you would possibly want to visit it to work out if perchance a number of her family contributors nevertheless stay there...or perchance attempt dialing an previous huge style you had of hers. it really is in case you wanna take it to the acute and are keen to attempt this. otherwise, i do not comprehend if there's a lot luck in searching her in case you won't be able to locate her by those ability.
2016-11-29 21:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's very crazy. Insane, even.
It's only been 2 months. You don't know enough about him to be moving to a foreign country.
You can visit him if you want, but you shouldn't change your entire life over a 2 month long relationship.
2006-11-28 04:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋