one of my guy mates wants to have sex with me and i want to have sex with him, the thing is i'm a virgin and he's done it before. (we're both teens but old enough) how do i make it enjoyable and special when i'm really not very confident? serious answers only please.
2006-11-28 04:11:59 · 26 answers · asked by Compassionate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really care for this guy and he cares for me too, i just want to know how to make it special for both of us.
2006-11-28 04:29:40 · update #1
if ya both think its right then go 4 it!!!
if he knows its your 1st time he's not gonna exspect an expert!
wots da worst dat can happen?
just make sure its da right thing 4 u!!!
dont get presurised into doing ne thing u dont feel ok with!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
em x
2006-11-28 04:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by emma t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't expect too much the first time you have sex. If you both have strong feelings for each other then it will be special no matter what happens. You just need to relax as much as you can.
If you don't want to wait until you meet the guy you want to marry (if you do ever want to get married) then go for it. You describe this guy as your mate though, is he really the person you want to lose your virginity with? I'm all for having relationships before you meet someone you want to setle down with, but I wouldn't sleep with someone I just regarded as a mate. They'd have to mean more to me that that. It's your decision. But I would advise using a condom, and maybe the pill too. You don't want to have any accidents!
2006-11-28 13:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel old enough, but your first time should be with your husband. Your saying that he wants to have sex with you, and the way it sounds he is just a friend, NOT WORTH IT!!! When your with someone that you truly love, it will be enjoyable and special just because you love them. My first time was with my husband on our wedding night, I was crazy nervous, but b/c he loved me it was so memorable and special, and I had the confidence in knowing that he will never leave me. You never know you might do it once and then not speak again, and you gave it up for nothing. I know this is not what you want to hear, but I thought I'd give my input anyway!!! I'll be praying for you!
2006-11-28 12:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by K-lo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are not comfortable enough with him to tell him it's your first time, you are not ready to have sex with him. If you can talk to him about it, just tell him about your anxiety, and he will adjust. Even if he has done it before, if he's a teenage boy, he still has no idea what he is doing so you don't have any reason to be embarrased. To make it more enjoyable, you should have a lot of foreplay before hand. I have to stress that you should not jut do it to get it over with for your first time, but because you want to share the experience with someone you care about and who cares about you.
2006-11-28 12:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tara P 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have feelings for him, DON'T DO IT, you will regret it. You want it to be with some guy you really appreciate and want to be with, sex should be an extension of love. If you are going to, then don't worry so much, just relax and follow his lead. He'll probably want to be adventurous, and do things you may think are weird, so tell him to be gentle and sensual. Above all else just enjoy it, because this will shape future sexual activities. Don't even attempt it if you have the smallest doubts, it may completely **** up your friendship with him. Once you make love to him your friendship will change, for better or for worse. that's the gamble darlin'. Hope all goes well.
2006-11-28 12:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex changes everything. If he is your friend, then the relationship may be different from here on out. I mean, if that's what you want. I would rather be in a meaningful relationship and give it up to him, then a guy friend trying to hit. girl, don't go there with him. Save it for a more special someone, not your guy friend.
2006-11-28 12:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by shondak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's often a bit weird the first time.
If he is just a freind I don't think it's worth doing it, the main basis should ideally be your affection and ideally 'love' for the other person, particularly as it is your first time.
Never feel under pressure to have sex, you have plenty of time in your life to do that.
Whatever happens ensure you use condoms!!!
2006-11-28 12:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by PaulyPaul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slow and wait for the right moment. When you're both ready for it then take your shot and make it happen. Stay calm and try and follow what he's doing as best you can. But don't try to follow everything or it'll seem weird to him. It doesn't hurt to be a little spontaneous either.
2006-11-28 12:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Diagonal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think carefully, you will never forget the first person you sleep with. Make sure hes the right one, don't do it just to get it over with. Anyone you speak to that just did it to get it over with regrets it later.
If you love this guy then explain its your first time and if he feels the same way for you he will be considerate and take things slow.
2006-11-28 12:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Scottish Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Neither of you is going to enjoy it unless you're both completely comfortable with whats happening, and if he's not willing to have a serious conversation with you about it, then he's not worth loosing your virginity too
2006-11-28 12:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by themightyshrub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure hes not just saying hes done it to make you feel like hes more confident.
if you want to have sex with him, use protection, be yourself and just go with the flow.
it should happen naturally if its gonna happen.
good luck
2006-11-28 12:15:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋