What do you do with a 14 year old girl who is disrespectful to all?

Question

My 14 year old great neice lives with her grandmother. Her grandmother is 68. She throws things at her and hits her. When I try to take up for her grandmother who is my sister she takes up for the girl. I don't know how to help. Please advise.

Answer 1

I had my 14 year old niece live with my wife and I for a year because her mother couldn't handle her. I told her the #1 rule in our house was respect. She broke it the first week and my wife smacked her hard. When she got up I told her if it happens a second time it would be me smacking her. Once we established that, she was open to listening to us and she learned how to be respectful to everyone and why it is important to her success in life. Two years after she moved out she said it changed her life.

Answer 2

Look at the entire family situation. THis is not the childs problem this is a family dynamic problem. This child is a product of her environment. The child has been abused, neglected or both. This child may or may not have physical, mental or emotional problems too. This child has not have her needs met. She has no parents raising her, she has a 68 year old raising her? This child is not a small adult, she is a child, she has needs. She is not acting like she should, she is reacting to what she has learned. She needs counseling, love, support, and help now! The 68 year old is too old to be raising a child.What are people thinking these days? People need a license to have a dog but can pump out kids without any knowledge? People should need a license to have children! God bless this elderly woman and this child. Call Children and youth services for the child, call the Office of the Aging for the elderly woman. They will take it from here.

Answer 3

The girl is in trouble. She's angry and confused - lashing out, and there has to be a reason

If at all possible, you really need to get her some help. Can someone talk to her sympathetically about what's troubling her without it turning in to a slugfest?

Has anyone spoken with her school? Counsellors, teachers may be able to shed some light.

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do if the grandmother is unwilling to help herself. You have to try to talk some sense into your sister. She is not helping this girl by protecting her. The girl needs some strong discipline.

Answer 5

Take your sister to lunch somewhere and talk to her make her see the things your niece is doing wrong. Now to put her on her place this is what you must do. First take away her privileges of going out. Do not give her any money, No phone calls, No computer, No TV, anything that she enjoys. Tell her that if she starts to behave she will get all those things back slowly. At first sign of disobedience take some things away not all of them at once.

Answer 6

hey hey hey!!!
im 14 years old and i did that when i was 13 and i had to learn that these ppl loved me. just make sure she nkows that u love her.
and the boot camp or militatry school is totally not an option.
i who hate anyone who put me in it.
dont do it.
if u have a question about the whole thing and need a 14 year olds perspective email me [e-mail]

Answer 7

Have the grandmother take all of her privilages including cell phone, TV, and place a curfew on her. Or, just have her move out and live with her mom or dad.

Answer 8

Boot camp. This girl needs to learn some discipline!

Answer 9

Someone needs to break a foot off in her azz !!! Throw her azz out of the house for a while and see if she likes that better.

Answer 10

obviously she needs help. maybe focus on trying to talk to her on "why" she throws things than to reprimand her. there is an underlying problem that she is dealing with that is making her act out this way. maybe try seeking counseling to find out. (by NO means am i saying this makes her behavior okay)