My son is 13 , and I have caught him being dishonest with me a lot .
I know that at his age there is bound to be some testing of boundaries , but I need to let him know that I know puberty sucks , but that honesty is the most important thing . Any ideas on what you would have liked your parents to do?
2006-11-28 04:03:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hindsight is a wonderful thing but cannot change anything. I was raised by a single mom as father died when I was 3 years old from cancer. But during my wise years (teenage years where I truly believed that I was brighter than Einstein) I thought that she knew nothing and was a foolish woman. But much to my amazement I now realize how brilliant she actually was and find myself repeating many of her sayings etc. Your young son is going through a difficult time in his life as he is trying to cut the apron strings a bit and yet still remain a kid at the same time. You can certainly sit him down and let him know that you and your friends went through a lot of the same things that he is currently experiencing but if he is like majority of kids he will doubt that you can identify with his feelings. Ha! I suppose that is why it is called the generation gap and has been around probably since the beginning of mankind. In a couple of more years he will see that he is not fooling anyone (especially his mom) by telling untruths and/or exaggerating his stories and will come around and respect you far more than you'll ever expect. I lived through this with 3 sons of my own and they are all young men now - aged 32, 25 and 21, and we actually are able to laugh at some of the things from the past today. Call on him when you think he is being dishonest but realize that it's part of teenage life at the same time. You too shall survive this part of your son aging. Kids today are forced to age at a much more quicker rate than generations of the past.
2006-11-28 04:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he tells you something say to him "Gee, I really wish I could believe you but you have lied to me so many times that it makes it difficult to believe that.
What can we do to make this better?" After a few times when he can't go some place or do something because he isn't trusted he may rethink his position. When he is ready and comes to you telling you he will not lie to you again tell him that you will choose to believe him and will not doubt him and that you trust that he will not disappoint you. I think that he will want to regained your trust and that he will not want to lose it again.
2006-11-28 12:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you wrote (but don't mention it was on yahooqestions). Honesty IS important, so be open and honest with him. Don't be mushy, but real and just honest. Be grown up so he can develop a grown up mind.
2006-11-28 12:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would want them to be more concern about my emotional. Sometimes they just never empathy when I'm sad.
2006-11-28 12:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Srey Touch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach me about money and financial responsibility.
2006-11-28 12:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋