I've been going out with dis guy 4 over 4yrs, & for this past 6months we’ve been hangin out with this couple and lately they broke up, however we still hang out with d girl & her friends. Now my bf's always asking so we go over 2 her restaurant & hang out there coz she’d b there, he asks me really often, they get along very well together, he’s all d time joking around with her & they have a very similar character. i didn’t think of anything of it till i found msgs on his mobile asking her if shes ok & that, even if she leaves from the restaurant early, he msgs her 2 see if shes ok.., what really upset me is that when we went partying & she was there, he made me dance with my friends so that he could dance with her, he was hugging her and lifting her up in front of my face etc.... should i be concerned, because he's still acts d same with me and he's a very nice and caring guy, i'm confused, when I asked him if he would go out with her if he was single, he said yes, should i be upset?
2006-11-28 03:57:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might like her
2006-11-28 03:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by TBone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try the direct approach, and just ask him. No one here can tell you what he really feels (maybe he can't even tell you). But if you ask him, he will at least know you are worried. You will know by his reaction how he really feels. If he is surprised, and tries to distance himself from her - then you know he cares about you first. On the other hand, if he gets defensive, or tries to tell you "Don't be silly" or "You are making something out of nothing", then you should be should be upset. Because even if there is nothing there, he should be more sensitive to your feelings. After all, he does seem sensitive to hers.
2006-11-28 12:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by Geo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset! Your boyfriend doesn't sound much like a one woman's man, if you know what I mean. He probably has feelings for more girls than just you and his good "friend" who has seemed to take your place. Have you tried talking to him, telling him how you feel? You need to make him choose who's affection he values more. I know it sounds mean, but has he not been unfair to you? Don't just dump him right away, try to work it out if your willing. I wish you the best of luck and I really hope I helped!
Love, crystal rendos
2006-11-28 12:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by MexiGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up that easily... talk it over with him, he might be a good guy and really respects her, if he did stuff infront of your face it means he has nothing to hide and he is showing his true feelings.. If i was you i'd keep away from the girl for a while, if he begs u to meet up with her than i'd consider leaving him if he doesnt change, but dont waste 4yrs
2006-11-28 16:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a 70 % chance he likes her and maybe she was his target before even she broke with her other boy-friend. So this is his chance to get her, he is not changing his atitude towards because he still wants to have you in case it doesnt work out with her.
2006-11-28 12:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by skullmaniac16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am pretty sure he likes the other girl. he seems to be tying to see date her without hurting your feelings. But maybe he is trying to get back at you if you broke up with him....using her to get back at you, those are my thoughts.
2006-11-28 12:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by random/\me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like to flirt around.
'enough' is never a word in their dictionary when it comes to meeting girls.
most importantly, you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your bf. once sided thinking doesn't help.
it may only make matter worst...
2006-11-28 12:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by complicated 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if she doesn't type in "text speak" as you do, I would like her more also. Try to grasp the English language, maybe he'll come back.
2006-11-28 12:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sounds like he likes her. You should get rid of him and you will see soon after you do they will be together.
2006-11-28 11:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope he stays with you and i wish the best hut there is allways that thought that will be in the back of your head
2006-11-28 12:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by l.sjkv ; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be worried he may end up leaving you 4 her
2006-11-28 11:59:01 · answer #11 · answered by Sm@rtAs$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋