My step-sister is an emotional vampire. She calls me at work 2 or 3 times a day, then she turns around and calls me at home in the evening 3 and 4 times a day. I just recently gotten married, and last night she called me at home at 11:30 p.m then turned around and called at 12:00 midnight. Alot of times, she doesn't want anything or to talk about this guy she was seeing. (a loser). I'm at my wits end on how to deal with her. Any suggestions?
2006-11-28 03:51:57 · 14 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Screen your phone calls and answer when it conveniences you. I wouldn't completely ignore her, but also set a time when you won't answer the phone anymore (example after 9:30pm). You and your husband having time alone without being interupted is very important.
2006-11-28 03:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Fenway♥George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her to stop doing this?
If you have and she keeps doing this, then here are some ideas:
1. If she calls you at work, then say, "I'm sorry. I am no longer allowed to take personal calls at work. Bye." Then hang up. Do that every time and after about the fifth time if you can identify her as the caller, simply do not pick up.
2. Put your ringer to silent at home after 11pm. If she doesn't get an answer, then she'll stop.
You will need to be prepared to have a little conflict with her in order to get some peace.
2006-11-28 11:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the ringer of your phone and let the message machine take the calls. Speak with her brother, your husband and have him talk with her asking that she call only at your house and not the workplace and that these calls be less frequent. Or you could speak with her and tell her that all these calls could jeopardize your job so please not call you there. And be honest with her and let her know when and what times are good for her to call you at home. If she is draining you emotionally then you should also let her know that and that although you think the world of her that you need some down time with your new husband.
2006-11-28 11:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think That she just can't let u go. she used to have u around the house. now that u gone, married to some body else and realized that u r not gonna be there for her just like u used to. just give her some times and talk to her about the hours to call. it's a sister and brother bonding thing. have a good talk to her and tell her when to call. hopefully she will understand
2006-11-28 12:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her calls and let her know that if she does want to speak to you, she needs only use one number, and at a decent time. Set some ground rules. Don't let her take over your life. Encourage her to get out and do things and get some friends, to hang out with people at her own job if she has one. Learn the art of voicemail, it's a wonderful little invention ;-). Hope this helps!
2006-11-28 11:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by DajaVu07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are in bed early so to please call before nine. Then, when you speak with her, let her vent and then wrap it up.
And get caller ID and dont answer all of the time. And you could get in trouble at work, so let her know that and tell her you are unable to really help her while you are at work. Then give her a quality bit of time to listen at some point. She can only make you crazy if you let her. Good luck.
2006-11-28 11:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either stop answering her calls or just plain out tell her that you cant talk to her all the time, tell her that when you are working is not a good time unless it is an emergency and tell her at night you would like to spend time with your husband and get sleep. dont make it sound like you dont have time for her just tell her that once a night is fine.if that is acceptable for you. you'll figure out a way of doing it with out breaking her heart, but she needs to understand that you have your own life to deal with. good luck
2006-11-28 11:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U dont now have one, get a phone U can shut off, the stress is going to make U do more than simply ask this Q on Yahoo.Edit -I like Karren L answer
2006-11-28 11:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by hunter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a life --and then quit taking calls from her w/ it's not an appropriate time to talk
2006-11-28 11:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your caller ID and ignore her calls for a little while and she should get the message.
2006-11-28 11:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋