still sensitive
2006-11-28 03:34:20 · 14 answers · asked by carrotcake 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Hey there. I too had breast cancer. I am a little more open about what I went through, that is just my way. I have had a bilateral TRAM, and recently had nipples put on. The route that I would go if someone asked me would be to say,
"My nipples aren't real, they won't work." and see what their reaction is. Then I would tell them that I had breast cancer. I don't mind talking about all that i have been through. I am proud that I have come out of it ok, for the most part. And my theory is if I can help people by talking about it, then so be it, I will.
But, for you, if you don't feel like you can talk about it, which is fine by the way, how you react will be depending on your mood. If you have had it with nosy people, then you will probably be curt with them, doing the "It's none of your business" stuff. If you are doing well, you may take the route of "It's a medical condition".
Either way, don't worry about it. But it helps to know that there are more of us younger women (I was 29 when diagnosed and 8 months pregnant. I did not breast feed. I didn't want her anywhere near my cancer) out there to support each other and the crappy feelings that go with breast cancer. Take care, and congrats on being 7 years clean!
2006-11-28 05:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by BriteHope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to do when she can talk and says, "NO!! I want that boobie, mommy!" I have 3 children and there is no nutritional benefit of nursing past 10 months. That only leaves one benefit...for you. I think it's gross and wonder why you would do this when there is no health benefit. Also, you said EXCLUSIVELY breastfeed. Do you ever want this child to like eating food? Even with babies, the health professionals recommend that you start to introduce baby food before the age of 1. She will NEED the components of food, and not be benefiting from the food she gets through you. Good Lord...the concept of chewing, tasting and swallowing food will be a foreign concept until she is in Kindergarten?! Or do you plan on keeping her with you until she's 12 and starting kinder then? This sounds more like a sick obsession than a good idea. Good luck on finding someone who has done this. You know, some babies don't like to nurse and you don't always get the last word. And some refuse it after a few months. Wow. That's just weird.
2016-05-22 22:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greetings fellow breast cancer survivor! We're still here, and as far as I'm concerned, we've earned the right to be rude! Just kidding- but I know what you mean. Often I don't even want to go through the whole "breast cancer story"- especially with those who didn't know me then. I think I would just say you wanted to, but can't, and leave it at that. If they persist, then just say "Well, I can't because I'm a breast cancer survivor". That should shut them up! Peace and take care.
2006-11-28 03:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Not so looney afterall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having had breast-cancer is definitely not a thing you chose for, it happened to you, sadly enough.
There's absolutely nothing rude in telling people you have gone through a difficult period......people who have a "heart" in their body will totally understand, and sympathise with you.
They will be happy for you you are one of the survivors,
as am I !!!
2006-11-28 03:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Joshua 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear your dilema,just say what ever you want to say, your family and close friends will already know, so what anyone else thinks doesn't really matter,you don't have to explain to anybody what you can and can't do.If you think it might make you feel better tell them the truth.Goodluck.
2006-11-28 03:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them u can't without being rude u don't have 2 explain it if u don't want 2 that's your decision because if it was me it would me a simple I can't and left alone...
2006-11-28 03:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by two boyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them -- "I am not able and that it is a personal matter I do not wish to discuss". If they persist, say "I would like you to respect my boundaries", "I am not discussing that with you", "That it is not your business", "I understand that you are trying to educate me about breastfeeding, but this is a matter between me and my doctor (and one I won't discuss)"
Pick which one based on how much you like the person and/or how well you know the person.
2006-11-28 03:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by InterpreterNatalie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "due to a past health concern I can not breast feed my child, I would love to but I am not able to"
most people would not question you after that and if they do then they are not a kind hearted person.
congrats on your pregnancy.
2006-11-28 03:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by D.C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really none of their damned business - they shouldn't be trying to dictate to you about how you raise your baby in the first place. Tell them it's not their business (be rude if you have to, because they are being rude to even ask you that!)
2006-11-28 03:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them...and be proud...YOU ARE A SURVIVOR. You would be surprised the questions that you will get from other concerned people...you may help save a life.
2006-11-28 03:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by babyangel31634 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋