Why do women like to condemn men who only want sex?

Question

Surely all relationships with the opposite sex are based (at least to begin with) on having sex. If it was all about companionship then everyone would be happy with a puppy, or we would make do with sharing a flat with a bunch of idiotic mates.

Every woman I've ever been with or fancied, I have wanted sex with. Those I haven't fancied I've only been friends with.

And I don't believe that women are any different either, they might just not want it quite as much as us men is all. Although having said that, I've known women who have always seemed to want it.

I'm trying to make the point that unless you see yourself having sex with somebody, then there is very little point in wanting a relationship with them, at least in the beginning.

If you have sex and they are a terrific person then great, have a fulfilling relationship! If not, then why should anyone feel obligated to stick around?

Answer 1

Double standards always come into play. If a woman just wants sex and no relationship she is a sl*t. If a man does the same he's just being a man?? As long as people are up front about it from the start there shouldn't be a problem in theory.

Nobody should be with somebody they don't want to be with but sadly thats easier said than done. When feelings on either side come into it situations get complicated and what should have ended quickly drags on and makes everybody miserable.

Answer 2

Your either very young or shallow. Sorry if I'm wrong. Although I have meet guys I thought about sex first it is very few. You obviously are not looking for anything long term or feeling loved or cared about. Don't get me wrong sex is great and a real plus. But look deeper. If sex is all your looking for than yes as a women I would condemn you also. There are many many guys out there not look for there next match in the bedroom. But yes I have meet the guy like you. I just laugh and leave them right where they stand. Not going to find a great women if your first concern is with sex.

Answer 3

It's because when a women fancies a guy, she wants to get married, have his babies and live together happily ever after.....

When they realise that the guy doesn't think the same, they feel annoyed and automatically treat the male as being a shallow and self seeking human being, therefore causing the friction.

In most cases of women who "believe" all men are pigs and pronounce to hate them, they have probably just had their happy home dreams shattered by some guy.....the bitterness has never worn off and so they become quite sad, catergorizing all men and trying not to get hurt again.

Answer 4

Hello Gilligan, If you were a woman you would know. It seems like every time you think, Yet this relationship is going to workout. He really cares about me. HAHA what a joke, all he wants and cares about is getting into our pants.Doesn't care about anyones feeling, just sex. It's men like you that makes women condemn the action of men. Sure we like sex, but with the right person.Someone who respects the way we feel and is in the relationship for more than a jump in the hay. You need to think about this.One of these days you are going to find Mrs.Right and she is going to slap you in the face, and walk away.

Clowmy

Answer 5

Well some of us sensible /wise people are looking for predominately a long lasting relationship.Great sex-so what.A relationship`s based on good sex ???!No wonder people get bored,or move on to the next thrill.Attraction Yes,but more importantly the other stuff (or their not getting any.How about that?)And some women only really get turned on by a few major boxes being ticked,or it is JUST SEX

Answer 6

It's not that we don't want it as much....it's more that women tend to want MORE than just sex, and many guys are satisfied with JUST that (or primarily that).

There's a line from a movie that I always found amusing..."women need a reason to have sex, guys just need a place"

I think women are less condemning of guys who only want sex if they are up front about it. If the guy either lies to the woman or just allows her to assume (doesn't correct her) that some kind of more meaningful relationship is possible, then she's likely going to be angry and resentful.

Be up front about what you want...if it's just sex, fine. If it's just sex but you are open to something more if y'all 'click', that's fine...if it's a relationship that's desired but you like to get into the sex early on, that's fine too...but be straight up about it and let her decide if that's acceptable to her or not.

Answer 7

I'm not part of your group that you lumped all women in. I however get very b*tchy after two days of not getting any. Sex is a huge of any relationship I have ever been in because for me it is a huge part of my life. I need and want a partner that can keep up! :) I don't see why any women would not be happy with a man that is always giving her sex, at least he isn't going anywhere else with it!

Answer 8

Clearly, you are of an age and mentality where the 'value' of the woman is dependant upon your level of sexual satisfaction and its needs.

That in itself is fine, as long as you recognise that for what it is ~ within the spectrum of its vocabulary - selfishly so. This is not a judgement, 'that you are selfish,' but a statement relating to your morals, mentality and naivety.

However, it would be wise to also recognise that there are others who do not share your value system, and that their value system is as valid for them as yours is for you.

Some men & women have voracious sexual appetites, though it ought to be recognised that 'nothing remains forever' is a valid point to keep in mind. A simple hormonal change can create a big change in a woman, just as can a seemingly small or insignificant acciedent to a man (eg: try to avoid 'Peronnes' wherever possible, have it checked for occasionally).

I hope that you manage to learn something - about human beings - in all of our colours and catagories.

Sincerely.
Sash.

Answer 9

Interesting question but you have to track right back to our basic instinctive drives if you want to unravel this one. You are not far off the mark with your male theory, basically because mating and strenghtening the tribe is a primary male drive. Within a modern so called civilised world, however, men often struggle here because our environment has evolved faster than our brains. In the case of women there is more primary focus on nurturing and sustaining within a tribe, hence men often get quite confused at the detailed interpretation placed on events and acts within a female perspective. I do accept your point that there is now a blurring of the once traditional male/female behavioural traits, eg. ladettes or males who, apparently, are more in touch with their femininity. We are attempting to adjust to modern social norms and who knows in about another 1000 years we have it sorted.

Answer 10

Ok, first things first, i girl is not as drawn to sex as you are, us men have a BIGGER urge for that, its what God created in us. But also woman may be looking for more than just sex, she wants everything else that you could possibly have to offer, even the smallest things. Becuase if your just lookin to get in bed, and thats all you can think about, than she will reject you and think your just like all the other guys. Thats why. Hope that helped, dont be the James Bond007 stick with being nice and staying with her, not just SEX SEX SEX