the fact i have no girlfriend and i cant just go out and get one either because of my problems, psychological and low self esteem, im 29 and i feel my face is rapidly aging, so i have to go without female company an sex for however long i have my problems, i feel so bad about myself not good enough for any girl, and i feel if anybody knew the reality of my circumstances no one would want me anyway..what i have on my plate to deal with..im only 29 an my face looks haggard..i cant watch the tv or go out these days because i cant bear to see anyone happy or with smiles on their faces..it fills me with despair and rage, whats wrong with me?
2006-11-28 03:20:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
well what a pile of crap that answer was nicole
2006-11-28 03:32:15 · update #1
you need to find one thing good about yourself, one thing that you apprecaite and like. I recently gained some weight and felt disgusted about myself. I used to attract guys because of the confidence i had. After gaining all the weight i no longer had that confidence and found it hard to pick up guys. So i askked someone what was one good thing about me. They told me my eyes so i would always look at my eyes and then i would slowly bring in other thiungs about myself. Noone is going to want to date someone with no self asteem even if you are attractive. Confidence is the key.
2006-11-28 03:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First you need to realize that if people are going to only be with you for your appearance then they are the ones with the problem. Cause no one will look good forever . Thats why its important to have a good inside cause that is all that really matters. Most people that are gorgeous are really ugly people inside and only have enough love for themselves. So take a nice deep breath and say f**k the world . And go find your self someone who is nice and gain confidence within yourself. Cause looks dont matter and if they do then that tells you what kind of person your dealing with. Always remember there is someone out there for everyone no matter how you look. My husband was burnt as a child and grew up with a scar on his body that he feels is disgusting, well to me its not. Do you see what i mean, he has a deformity in his head but i think he is perfectly fine. So don't you worry you'll find someone special as long as you lose the complex and gain the confidence. So i wish you the best.
2006-11-28 03:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by crissangelfreak22 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need anti-depressants. Is your face haggarded for real or do you just feel that way. You can improve your physical side, but you need help and lots of work with your emotional side. See your doctor and let him/her know that you are feeling this way. You are probably alot better than you are giving yourself credit for. I am sure you could have lots of friends (male/female) you just need to trust in yourself and build up your confidence. Somethimes holidays can make lots of people feel this way. The best thing is to go out and join them. Nobody would turn you away because of a haggard look on your face. Brighten up and see your doctor. I am sure there is a silver lining there especially when you yourself know how you are feeling. Best of Luck to you.
2006-11-28 03:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez pal wonder how a old guy like me got no problem with the women i got a haggard face and forty years older than you but see i work like a dog and no how to make a woman happy and that girl was right it aint what you look like it is who you are I get some of the best looking broads you ever seen pal sorry if the women dont like that word i mean it like in a good way
2006-11-28 07:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by nick g 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to focus on yourself before you even begin to worrie about being in a relationship. It sounds like you have depression. You need to seek professional help. Once you overcome your depression and build some self esteem you'll be a much happier person and let me tell you a happy self confident person will radiate attractivness enough that you won't even need to try to get someone, they will come to you. Try reading a book called "Feeling Good." I think it will help you with you situation. You sound real negative, you need to focus on the positive it will boost your mood by just thinking positively. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 03:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by laviniablue 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your problem can be solved in God. Pease go to church to chat with a pastor.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)
2006-11-28 03:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its not so much what you look like. women like it when you treat them like sh*t so stop being so nice and go get some.
2006-11-28 03:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
See a doctor, like. RIGHT.NOW!!
2006-11-28 03:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lorese K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋