My boyfriend is really getting on my nerves lately. Every time we talk or are together he tries to act like he is so cool and a big shot and it is really starting to annoy the crap out of me. I don't know who he is trying to impress but he is always trying to act like he is so rich and cool and just all that and he isn't! I never encourage this behavior so I do not know why he feels it is necessary. He is like that to me, his friends, clients... It is all a big Yawn. I don't know if I'm just over the relationship or if he is just to immature for me. We've been together for awhile and everything else about him is fine. How can I tell him to cut it out without starting an argument.
2006-11-28 03:19:08 · 20 answers · asked by Freespirit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 28 years old!!! That is the kicker!!! He isn't a child so this behavior is just ridiculous!
2006-11-28 03:33:32 · update #1
You should be asking him not people here. If you have not asked him, why not? Is his actions really that bad? Sounds like you are slightly jealous, but why? Do you feel he is attempting to impress another female?
Other than being jealous I don't see a motive for this being a huge issue.
2006-11-28 03:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's annoying to be around puffed up people who like to talk about themselves... so much worse when it's someone you are close to. First, try remembering the good qualities about him and write them down if you have to so you don't forget (make a list). You'll find there's more good than bad. Next, find a good time to talk to him. Position all the things you like about him. Then, tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel when he talks about himself. Share your fear for him that others may see him the same way. There's much to want in a good man who is also humble. Hopefully he sees it that way too. You are not wrong for feeling this way, and I think by telling him in rational and caring way, you are doing him a favor. That's what we should do for each other - help. Sometimes the true hurts, but if he believes you are a true friend, then he'll know you have the best intentions.
2006-11-28 03:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by monica.shogreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is.. what's his father like? This doesn't work with all people, but alot of times when I try to get a read on a person, I look at the same sex parent for hints. Is your boyfriends father arrogant as hell too? If he is, your boyfriend isn't likely to stop, because it's a learned behavior.
Now, if his father isn't like this, then there could be hope in that your boyfriend could just be going through an immature phase. It could go away, or it might not.
Unfortunately, talking to him about it won't work. For the moment at least...he is who he is. If you don't like who he is... it's time to move on.
2006-11-28 03:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to start a fight how old is this dude for real tell him hes acting like a 4th grader trying to impress the teacher he has a crush on that will break the ice lol but seriously try to talk with out fighting even if thats easier typed then done
2006-11-28 03:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's insecure about something. Maybe he feels you deserve someone who is "better than him". If you sit down and ask him, why all of a sudden is he acting like this and make him tell you the truth. Alot of times, if a guy really loves a girl, and they cant give that girl what they believe she deserves they feel inadequate or not worthy basically. If thats not it, hes probably just too immature for you and the qualities you used to like about him are wearing off...Hope I have helped
2006-11-28 03:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and is willing 2 make things work why not try sitting him down and having a serious talk. Tell him how you feel and ask him why he is doing this. TALK. It's the only way you will find out why he is doing this and you both might find a solution.
2006-11-28 03:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shivanie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great advice! Look for a man. Let the little boy go on his way. Find someone who can fill you emotionally, spiritually, sexually. What you have been confronting is the outlook for the near future. Is that what you want for the next I don't know how many years? Do yourself a favor, put your self-esteem first. Dump this guy. I believe he playing grown-up.
2006-11-28 03:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either an asshole, or he thinks you're attracted to assholes. Tell him how much he's getting on your nerves, and you'll find out the truth. If he's not an asshole, he'll apologize and stop acting like one. If he is an asshole, he'll keep acting like one and you will be able to sleep well at night knowing you didn't get too involved with him.
2006-11-28 03:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Erik A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his immaturity is getting to you. So the answer is that you are both over the relationship and sick of his immaturity. Don't ask him to change, just find someone that you are more compatible with.
2006-11-28 03:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya nicely the two you nevertheless have emotions on your ex or all your different boyfriends are the relatively valuable variety who cope with you like some idol and positioned you on a pedestal....women tend to lose interest of that..
2016-10-13 06:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋