If your bf never says he loves you, and never calls you or comes to see you, then does he love me? I love him, but I have never told him, and if we do talk we never say it to each other. Should I tell him, even though it has only been four months and he might not love me? He is a super serious guy, and I feel we are on the verge of a break up. What should i do?
I love him, and i really want to tell him, but i don't think he wants to see me. Everytime we see each other I leave with my feelings hurt? Is it worth it?
2006-11-28 03:17:09 · 16 answers · asked by amy-j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he never tries to contact you and does not want to spend time with you, its not worth it. especially not if you get hurt whenever you do see him. Relationships need communication and if you cant talk to him then how is your relationship supposed to grow.
However, if you really love him, try talking to him. If you are afraid he will break up with you if you say that you love him, then use the words, "i really care about you" instead and tell him that you are afraid of losing him but you feel like you are drifting apart.
Also, guys usually don't express their emotions, at least not as strong or often as girls do. By talking to him it might help him open up, and remember that its not like you have been dating him for 2 years and he never said "I love you", these things take time. But don't let yourself get hurt by him, and if thats all that is happening, maybe you should think about finding another guy... no guy is worth your tears, and the one who is, wont make you cry
2006-11-28 03:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds like he doesnt care for you that much at all if he never calles or sees you then how do you see each other. you should deff talk to him about seening each other more that way you can get a little closer before you drop the L word.most of the time its better if the guysaysit first. because girls seem more forward and guys get scared when girls say that to them first. but if you go a few years with out saying it, thenyou may want to say it because he is probably really shy. and if he doesnt love you after all that then things just werent ment to bee and you need to move on and quit wasting you life on someone who will most likely never love you.
2006-11-28 11:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is two part.
One...never live your life regretting something. If you really want to tell him that you love him, then do it. Otherwise you may spend too much time wondering what would have happened if you did. If he doesn't return your feelings, well then at least you know and you won't be wondering anymore.
Second...realize that although he may seem like the right person for you, if he is not telling you how much he cares for you, or telling you how amazing you are (Everyday) then my thoughts are that he just isn't that into you. Don't waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't realize just how wonderful you are.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 11:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should re-evaluate the relationship before telling him. If you say it and he doesn't say it back, or doesn't give you the response you want you'll get really hurt. Judging by the lack of communication and the fact that he never comes to see you, I'd say that he's not in love. People do get busy, yes...but if he was that into you he'd make time. Trust me. Been there, done that...save yourself the heart ache.
2006-11-28 11:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he never call you or come to see you? A guy who loves you wants to be with you! Why leave you free to love another if he wants all of your love? Maybe you need to evaluate if you even want to ge in a relationship where you have to figure out how someone feels about you. It isn't worth all that.
2006-11-28 11:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by Freespirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dumped a girl before from not sharing her feelings with me. Maybe he wants the emotional connection with you, but as a male, he thinks you need to make the first move. You'd better, and fast, or it won't be a question of whether or not you'll end up hurt. You will end up hurt.
2006-11-28 11:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Erik A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love the guy tell him in a very serious manner do you love me??? see what he says no matter what he says say because i love you and i was wondering if you feel the same way.... then your heart will tell you what to do
2006-11-28 11:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He don't love you. He's playing you. Tell him to get lost. Then go get a life.
2006-11-28 11:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you're dating my ex!
It's so not worth it, honey. Move on. There's someone so much better out there for you - trust me.
2006-11-28 11:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by thelittlemerriemaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a guy loves you, you'll know it. he will be there for you, for years, always be a shoulder to lean on, and will always embrace you. you will be able to see it in his eyes.
you will just know.
2006-11-28 11:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋