he needs to "think"?

Question

ok so i had a question on why my boyfriend feels that he needs to think about stuff. Ok at the moment we are not together we agreed on not seeing other ppl ive kept my word but dont know if he has too.

Well since the "Thinking" talk (1 wk ago) hes been sweeter than ever he now calls more we have been intimate since it was a 2 yr and 1/2 relationship so yeah,.

Things have been the same i had Thanks Giving Dinner in his house he presented me as his girlfriend to one of his new friends.He got a call from his friends and he told him oh im just here with my girlfriend watching t.v.

But when i ask him why not be together he sais im thinking. so i question him on him seeing someone else and he sais no im thinking about my life i want to get my life straight give me a couple of wks.

This is all my fault since i broke up with him what to do?hes confusing me i dont want to be his "friend" i want to be his girlfriend he sais is nothing like that just to give him time IM CONFUSED

*Yesterday i talked to him and told him if you dont give me a straight out answer soon then i see your intentions. You said it'll take a couple of weeks but if it takes long and your playing games then ill be forced to not answer ur calls or reply to your text and just call me when you've made up your mind..

Was i right to say this?

Answer 1

I'm not trying to be mean but I think he wants to be free to fool around while still keeping you. He seems nicer and more relaxed yet still doesn't want to be 'together' with you? Maybe he hasn't gotten his 'needs' totally out of his system yet. Maybe you did break up with him, but he doesn't seem to mind his new status with you, especially if you aren't seeing anyone else. He gets to have it both ways. I could be wrong, but I used to have a lot of guy friends before I got married and they would tell you the same thing.

Answer 2

Ok, the question is: Do you love him? Do you want him as your partner?Are you tired of his thinking about...?
Not everybody do things in the same way, some people really need more time than another...now you give him the 2 weeks he asked for but NO MORE than that, if he doesnt have the answer for what he called time, move on...

Answer 3

Wow physco you need to chill out you broke up with him you broke his heart he needs to think if you really love him and if your going to HURT him again to be honest you asking him to give you an answer is just pushing him away hes not doing anything in a week once you start working on 3weeks or a month then get questioney but for now leave him alone let him think and let him figure out if the trust your broke is worth trying to fix

Answer 4

Well my hubby (BF at the time) said he needed some "space" to think about things. I also thought he was fixing to break up with me! I was devasted!! 2 weeks later he was on one knee proposing to me!!! It was so sweet. He apologized for hurting me by saying he needed his space, but this allowed him time to get things in order, to decide if I was the one. Hes now my husband and we've been marrie dover 3 years now and whenever he says he needs "space" now its always to my benifit. I hope I have helped. I just think he is thinking about his life and where he wants it to go. Good him time and "space".

Answer 5

I don't agree with time apart even if both want it.If you like or love each other you should sit down and talk to each other to sort things out and make things better. All this time apart is just a reason to cheat on each other and if they get caught they can say be we wasn't together !!! I'm a man trust me :p

Answer 6

Hes trying to work on whatever his problem was in the first place. Its only been a week, and you told him to do it. Be patient.
I think he introduced you as his gf because he wasnt about to get into the details of the relationship.

I think its wrong that you broke up with him then get angry when he does exactly what you wanted him to do. You cant have it both ways.

Answer 7

oh girl, you've got to remeber he's a person too, and maybe really does just need time to think about things, you may not know everything that he has to think about or to take into considerattion, and nobody likes to be pressured. You should've just said you understand and let him have his time and space to think. Let him know you care about him, but respect him, let him have his time. Just go crazy on your girlfriends or diary instead ( but let them know why you're going awol).

Answer 8

Boys suck.

but for your problem. you can't really be mad at him for taking time to 'think'..since you did break it off. it's hard...but sit tight for another week or two...if he's still 'thinking' tell him you need a straight up answer because you are not going to wait forever.

i think if you give him some room, maybe even sometime to miss you it will either make or break the relationship. i hope it doesn't break hun, but time will tell.

Answer 9

It seems he does not know what he wants... He may not even have feelings for you...well, something...but not what you may want...

The best thing to do is give him his space... Go date other people and if he truly loves you, he will come and find you...

I'm going through a similar thing and there is nothing you can do...they need to make up their mind...and you can;t just put your life on hold for them either...

Best of luck...

Answer 10

im sorry to tell u that but what u did is total wrong and maybe when u told him that he might get a chance to get another girl. instead call him and tell him that your sorry and u dont mean anything like what u said u only missed him and u where furious at that time