graduate school. During the early part of of it, he tells me he wants a relationship. Then he tells me he's isn't ready for one. Ok. Then I "caught" him w/someone. I remained cool but he took off running when he saw me. Why lie? Just be honest if you're seeing other people. I was! Things got tense btw us so we took a break, during which he started dating some girl.
Recently, he decided he wanted us to stop having sex. Cool. So I say, "No sex, no friendship." FWB rules. He flipped, saying that I was just using him for sex. Duh! But I indulge him and try being "friends". Soon it becomes apparent that it's not working (hence the reason I said no sex, no friendship in the first place)
So does he want a relationship? He says no, he's not ready; I say, you told me that before and then got into a relationship w/someone else. BS. I think he's intimidated because we're both in graduate school. He dates immature woman (his words) and complains about it all the time.
2006-11-28 03:05:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever. I'm not his freaking therapist so I cut the relationship cold. The thing is he keeps reaching out to me. He wants to find out how I'm doing and all this other bs. I know that he's not interested in sex because he was adamant about it. He refuses to do it. So why does he keep reaching out to me if he doesn't want a relationship and I don't want a friendship? What does he want from me?
2006-11-28 03:07:09 · update #1
By the way, he broke up with that girl after he told me he wanted us to stop having sex.
2006-11-28 03:09:40 · update #2
Are you really that outta the loop? Of course he wants a relationship but is taking whatever you will give him in hopes that you will change your mind. You know the deal stop using him for your bootycall. I say that cause when a person got feelings for you bootycalls are not effective and you know this cause you want to go to FWB rules. Well let the guy off the hook. You know what you are doing. Just to consumed to step back and look at the situation. Or you could be gettin off on the whole thing.
2006-11-28 03:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in a FWB situation, there is always one person who starts to have more feelings than just the whole sex thing.
What I think happened here, is that he started to have feelings for you, but he does not want to admit it because of the fear of rejection. I mean he knows that what you want from him is just a sexual relationship and he might fear that if he leads on anything more, you might reject him.
He is probably very confused, wishing that he did not have these other feelings and trying his best not to show them. He might not have the guts to show you how he really feels. I dont think it is so much that he is intimidated that you both go to graduate school, more of he does not want to have a broken heart.
Either you have to cut him off completely, or talk to him about the situation, if you like him in that way and try to have a real relationship.
2006-11-28 03:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the FWB was not your first relationship, maybe it would have been more if you two would have found a friendship first I think the relationship could have been something. FWB really screws with your head if you like to admit it or not.
Write him off as a lesson, its best for both of you.
2006-11-28 03:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by James J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are and this is very common and one of the draw backs to such arrangements. What did you do wrong? Just look at the first paragraph of your question for that answer. You started doing to many things with him normal everyday couples do and this screwed with your emotions and caused confusion. You should only seen this guy for sex and nothing else, that is where you went wrong. The problem is even when women just do that they always tend to fall in love because your emotional creatures.
2016-05-22 22:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he found someone else but just wants your friendship. He is probably having his sexual needs met somewhere else but has formed a friendship with you and wants to talk with a woman (not his guy friends) sometimes.
2006-11-28 03:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by COCOA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly is he the only men alive in this world? i am not even sure if it is worth your headahce i dont like men who dont know what they want. wishy washy they say. if you stand on your grounds and be strong he will get to point and leave you alone. but i am not sure if it is what you want anyways. this is going to go on a loop..same thing over and over again. i say move on. find someone who wants the same thing as you do.
2006-11-28 03:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex without commitment always causes problems.
Good Luck.
2006-11-28 03:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else.
2006-11-28 03:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋