Is it wrong that this morning I asked him if he could start trying to dress up for me?. Everyday I do my very best to make sure my legs are shaved, that Im dress pretty for him and all i want s for him to get out of the sweats once in awhile and put jeans a polo or button up shirt....Am I Wrong?...I jusy wish he would put alittle care for me?
2006-11-28 02:56:00 · 8 answers · asked by sarapereznj 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First things first, did he dress that way when you met him?? If so, you have nothing to complain about. Remember, you CANNOT change him, he is who he is and if you fell in love with him while he was wearing sweats then that is what you got, a man who likes sweats. However, if he didn't start wearing them until after you were engaged, try asking him why he doesn't clean up anymore. If he says "I don't know" then ease into the subject by telling him how much you liked it when he dressed nicer. Make sure you tell him you like it, don't throw it up to him that you always dress for him, you have to make it his idea. You also need to make sure his clothes look nice before he puts them on, don't want to sound old fashioned here but it is your responsibility to make sure his clothes are clean and pressed before he puts them on. Good luck.
2006-11-28 03:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is the thing. He should want to make you proud of being seen with him. But if you have to ask, there may be something else going on. Maybe he just doesn't know how to dress up??? Maybe it makes him self-consciuous. Rather than telling him to dress up, you should play up how much you like seeing him in this and that. If he is a guy that doesn't have much of a clue, then offer to go shopping for nice clothes, or to pick something out. BUt don't impose it on him.
Don't come across like you are trying to change him. No one likes that. Play up how exciting it is for you to see him dressed up, not just falling into the same old rut. But let him "hang out", too.
Check out the book Sheet Music, by Kevin Leman. Although it deals with sex, it also deals with the whole of your relationship.
It's written so that both of you should read it so that you can understand each other.
2006-11-28 03:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Its normal for you to want him to dress up a little.
If he wont do it by asking, try doing things like complimenting him on how fantastic he looks when he does dress up for you, it'll make him want to wear it more.
Or when you guys are out shopping, suggest getting him something nice, something he likes (with your help and approval).
Since this isnt a life changing request, I dont see the big deal in asking him...I ask my boyfriend!
Relationships are compromise, so if he ever asks you to do something a little out of the normal that might take a little effort and you arnt so thrilled about, be willing to suck it up.
2006-11-28 03:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by kaye t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the motivation to do that has to come from inside of him,
not from you telling him. i think the best thing is ease up on
your side, you may be doing too much and resenting it because he doesn't. also buy tickets for more formal events so he has to if he wants to go. nice concerts or something he really wants to go to. take him for a nice dinner on anniversary or something.
2006-11-28 03:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not wrong and I am sure that tactful suggestions
from you will have positive effects on his dress..
2006-11-28 03:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you said it. If you said it in a nice and considerate way, there is nothing wrong with it at all.
2006-11-28 03:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is making the mistake of letting himself go because he has taken you for granted.
2006-11-28 03:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not wrong at all. who doesn't want a sexy lookin' man :)
2006-11-28 03:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by niptuck2630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋