My bf was with his ex for 7 years and cheated on her in the last few months before he left her. Later we met and i found out from his ex he cheated on her. She also told me that he seems to love me more than he ever loved her. My bf says i'm the right one for him and i'm different, that he would never cheat because he has no reasons to, and that he loves me more than all his ex's.
Is a cheater always a cheater or are there exceptions that can be classified as one-time mistakes?
2006-11-28 02:48:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating tends to become a habit of its done in more than one relationship but its definitely not a certainty. All relationships are different, theirs obviously wasn't working which caused him to cheat, that situation shouldn't necessarily define your relationship. You should accept that its a possibility and tell him that if he ever feels like he is unhappy in the relationship enough to go looking somewhere else he should just be frank with you and talk about it. Don't write him off for a past mistake, everyone makes them but just be careful and make sure you communicate well.
Good Luck!
2006-11-28 02:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by jess_smith3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that is very hard to answer, not every person is a cheater because he/she cheated in the past, you can not patronize every one in the same way.When somebody cheat always there is a reason for that.Now....why are you talking to his ex about that? Take a good conversation with your bf and tell him that you love honesty first of all, the better way to clean all doubts is communication in a clean, honest and clear way.
2006-11-28 03:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by lovetoyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a cheater is always a cheater. You should take it one day at a time and keep your eyes open. I know you dont want to take his past into the present realtionship that the two of you have, so just be careful and dont ignore signs. Cause believe me if he is a cheater there will be signs.
2006-11-28 02:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What happens when there is a slight problem in the relationship? He will cheat on you. If he really changed he would have told you that he made a huge mistake and he feels sorry for the girl he hurt in the past. For anyone to stop doing something wrong they have to admit that it was only their fault.. Just be careful when ur relationship starts to be less than perfect
2006-11-28 06:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater is always a cheater. Period. If he was unhappy with his ex, he should have just left her instead of cheating on her.
2006-11-29 10:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! maybe he cheated his ex because of some attitude that he don't like or maybe he is not happy when they are together or maybe his ex told her this so that you will get mad at him that will cause break up or that can hurt your BF, it is a can of revenge to him. Just love him and make sure that he will be always happy when you are together so that he will not be bored and find other girl that can make him happy.
2006-11-28 03:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by tamroun143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to find out. See what happens. In most cases, not all, but the higher percentage, "once a cheater, always a cheater".
2006-11-28 02:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Intially i would say give him a chance. However, he seems to have issues with accountability. Instead of saying what he did was wrong and he would never do it again, he said that he would never cheat on you because he doesnt have a reason too. Well what if he finds a reason, or if you too have a little mis-understanding one night? I never knew there were "REASONS" for cheating. Its wrong period, if you don't like someone, break up first!
2006-11-28 02:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can change but they can only change if they want to do it for themselves and definitely not for anyone else. I was with my ex for almost seven years and he cheated on me all of the time (which is the reason that I kicked him out and divorced him) and I used to blame myself for it because I didn't think that I was good enough. Now he is with someone else and is trying to make me his booty call...so in this case, it wasn't me and he hasn't changed. I think that people do have the capacity to change and I hope for your sake that he has so that you guys can have a happy future together. However, one's past behavior does usually predict their present and future behavior so it is something to consider. But you have to understand that you cannot punish him for something that he has never done to you by not trusting him. Give him a chance and don't worry so much about what went on with him and his ex and focus on what he has with you. Good luck and take care:)
2006-11-28 03:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess there can be onetime mistakes, but once a cheater always a cheater is normally true. Just be careful. Maybe he is ready to
"settle down"
2006-11-28 02:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋