I pay child support and she wants me to still buy him things.
2006-11-28 02:37:15 · 8 answers · asked by Cinnamon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have other children she needs to grow up and think about her child... why wouldn't you want you child to know there siblings... and as for paying child support and buying him things she shouldn't even have to ask... If you see he needs things you should want him to have them. And if you are worried about where the money goes, just take him shopping when he's with you that way you know that he got the shoes, clothes or whatever that he needed with out her spending the money on something else....
2006-11-28 02:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a child with another woman a year before i met him. His son is almost 12. I have two children with my husband and one on the way. My husband pays child support and that is all the contact that we hve with this child. Because of the mother's living conditions (which are deplorable despite the $700 a month in support) her drug habits and the way she chose to raise her son, I refuse to allow any interaction with my children except at the unavoidable family Christmas.
Some women have genuine reasons others just want to be difficult, only you know which is taking place.
2006-11-28 10:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be the other baby's mother? In any event you tell her if she can't allow her child to be around his brothers than you can't continue to be supportive of her financially or any other way. Tell her she must realize one day those kids are going to have to be there for each other and they have a right to get to know each other as family/brothers. If she has a problem with it find another way to vent, but that is not the proper way to handle this situation. That's how so many people end up not knowing who their family is. It's sad and it's not fair to the kids. Don't the father get visitation rights? If so, there's nothing she can do about where he spends his time as long as he's not in any danger. Do whatever is necessary to see to it those kids know each other. If something happen to her tomorrow the father will have custody and he will already be familiar with his family.
Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-28 10:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe so many people are out for what they can get instead of thinkin of the well being of their children. If she want to act crazy, let her go ahead and act crazy but you shouldn't have to put out money on buyin him things. That is what CHILD SUPPOrt is for. I believe baby momma drama queens do not understand that. The money that you get for child support is suppose to be use for any needs.
2006-11-28 10:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clair
The moment I met you, I swear.
I felt as if something, somewhere,
Had happened to me, which I couldn't see.
And then, the moment I met you, again.
I knew in my heart that we were friends.
It had to be so, it couldn't be no.
But try as hard as I might do, I don't know why.
You get to me in a way I can't describe.
I don't care what people say, to me you're more than a child.
Clair
If ever a moment so rare
Was captured for all to compare.
That moment is you in all that you do.
But why in spite of our age difference do I cry.
Each time I leave you I feel I could die.
Nothing means more to me than hearing you say,
"I'm going to marry you. Will you marry me? Oh hurray!"
Oh Clair Clair ...
Clair
I've told you before "Don't you dare!"
"Get back into bed."
"Can't you see that it's late."
"No you can't have a drink."
"Oh allright then, but wait just a minute."
While I, in an effort to babysit, catch up on my breath,
What there is left of it.
You can be murder at this hour of the day.
But in the morning the sun will see my lifetime away.
Oh Clair Clair ...
Oh Clair
2006-11-28 10:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying him things, special gifts, is what a father would do, as is spending time with him. Who do the brothers live with? You? How is your home environment different from hers, your childcare values different from hers? What kind of reasons are you giving her for not wanting her baby to turn out like you?
My own stepdaughter married (briefly) a guy we not so fondly referred to as the Taliban. He was the kind of guy who thought of "his woman" much as he did his car or his TV. Needless to say, he didn't keep her long. Idiots like that don't deserve to reproduce.
2006-11-28 10:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Philo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do u have more than one baby momma? if that is the caze than respect her decion. maybe she feels the other sibling are a bad influence!!
2006-11-28 10:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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sorry i can't help you if i do not know who's who
2006-11-28 10:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋