Why can't Inconsiderate selfish parents leave the bratty kids at home?

Question

In the past few years, I've noticed that so many parents take their children everywhere rather than get a babysitter. Examples include adult-only weddings, late-night movies, bars, and sporting events. And I don't mean older children, I mean babies and toddlers.
Why can't people nowadays leave the kids at home?
If my parents couldn't find a babysitter, then they stayed home themselves instead of bringing me along. If a person isn't comfortable with any sitter, then why choose to take the child to a late-night movie?Bottom line -don't take your baby to a movie - if I want to hear a crying baby during the middle of my viewing, I'll babysit and watch the film on DVD.
I think it's part of an epidemic of lack of respect for others. Past 10 years, people have adopted an "I don't care how it affects others, I'm going to do what I want"
type of attitude. It sucks. And THEN they(selfish parents) complain that people are rude....What a joke

Answer 1

have a bratty 8 year old. Sometimes we have to take these public challenged kids with us because sometimes that is the only way to teach them. I don't ignore his behavior-I puchish him for it. If he doesn't behave himself he doesn't play with friends when we get home nor watch tv or play video games. He has gotten so much better since we started taking away the things he likes the most. Also, brats will keep it up til you do something about it. When my son has his moments he gets one warning and then we leave if he does it again. IF I have to leave due to his behavior he spends the rest of the day in his room without toys, tv, video games and friends. His moments are getting less and less as he sees what he gets when he acts up. Yes, parents today ignore bad behavior too much because they are afraid to make their kids mind. I used to be that way thinking he would outgrow it on his own. Not a chance. Kids want to be disciplined.

Answer 2

I have a 3 year old child and her bed time is 8pm. I don't understand it when I see young babies on the bus when I'm going out clubbing at 10pm. I think it's unfair on the children to be up so late. Children really need to be in a routine and if they don't get enough sleep, they won't be able to concentrate the next day.

I think some parents (mistakenly) believe that if they keep their kids up late, they'll sleep longer in the morning. All that really happens is that they're grumpy and irritable.

We get a babysitter about once a month (none of our family live nearby) and the last thing we want to see on our adult night out is a small tired child at the next table.

As for the movies, why are there children there anyway unless you're going to see a U film, surely the classification means that kids should be banned from seeing anything other than U and PG films?

I can sort of understand the wedding thing however, it's almost impossible to find someone to babysit for an entire day and evening, however one of the parents should go home / retire to the hotel room at the child's bed-time leaving the dancing to the grown-ups. If the invitation explicity said "no children" then of course we would not attend.

I think a lot of people are determined to not let having a child stop them doing the things they used to do but the harsh truth is that having a child does change how you have to do things. How long before we have women dancing in nightclubs with a baby carrier strapped to them?

Answer 3

Not only is it a sign of an epidemic lack of respect for others, but I also see it as a sign of businesses capitalist greed that they're unwilling to let parents know that such atrocious behavior will not be accepted by our society. If businesses are so willing to cater to these rude parents, then they should take it a step further and provide on-premises, mandatory childcare for anyone bringing a child. Otherwise, they should have consideration for their other customers and not fear the reprisals of a group of rude parents.

Answer 4

Well said. Some places are not meant for children. If I am going out for a meal or on holiday, I don't want to go to these family orientated places. I am not against families, it's just that adults need their own places to go, and badly behaved children spoil things for others.

A bride also has the right not to allow children at her wedding. It is her day, and who wants children misbehaving or screaming, especially at the ceremomy, so the other guests cannot hear her and her husband take vows?

If you cannot change your priorites when having children, don't have them!

I am one of six, and we could be taken anywhere for a meal, simply because we were taught to sit at the table at home and eat nicely. There were no fast food places then, no play areas, and it did not occur to any of us but to stay at the table and eat our meal. It is what a restaurant is for. It was a real treat as well to go out to eat!

Answer 5

That's so true. I have nothing against children. I just think they should all be kept in the house until they are ten and not introduced into society until then. That would solve the problem. Yes, I hate those parents too. People really have let this go. If your kid acts up in public, it is your obligation to leave or do something to correct the situation. Don't make everyone else suffer through that racket. These parents may be use to the noise and they may love their child but we (as in everyone else in the world) do not. Although most people don't say anything, it's as annoying as hell to listen to some kid crying or acting up in a public place, especially a movie theater for god's sake. You parents that bring young children and babies to movie theaters should all be flogged. You are the worst type of criminals in my opinion, second only to murderers.

Answer 6

I agree children , should be at home , not in a public cinema or concert hall .

They are not able to enjoy, what is shown ( it is usually far too loud any way ),

and neither with a wailing child close by, will the audience around them

If you cant get a decent reliable baby-sitter .

The alternative for people, with young children,
is to stay at home .

and as you suggest ,watch a film or listen to a concert, on DVD,

The young children, will be more relaxed and happier, in their own home .

And so will their parents and the paying audience !!!!

>^,,^<

Answer 7

I have one child who is 21 months old and my husband has been deployed to Iraq for almost a year. I wouldn't take him to one of the establishments that you mentioned b/c that would be inconsiderate to others. However, sometimes I do feel like I deserve a nice dinner and have no one to keep him so I take him along. He absorbs everything at this age and he needs to be put in that position so that he can learn how to act in public (he can only learn from doing it, just like everyone else). If he gets out of hand, then it's time to step outside for a few minutes until he calms down so that we don't disturb anyone.

Answer 8

Oh, I hate that! I have two children and when they were small I didn't take them out.
Some parents will say that you have to get children used to going out from a small age. That is bull s*@t! I waited until my kids were older and they did much better once I did take them out.
I do agree that our society has turned into a very ill mannered and inconsiderate society. And now we are raising a society of even more inconsiderate and rude people. It's just sad.
If their are parents reading this, don't take your young children out and for God's sake teach them some manners. There is nothing wrong with 'please and thank you'.

Answer 9

and why do bars, cinemas etc let them in? I mean most films have an age restriction that says something like no one under 12, 15, 18 can see this film.

some cinemas seem to think it's no one between the ages of 2 and 12, 15, 18 can see this film

Answer 10

In some cases people take their bratty kids places because they really HAVE to, but in the cases you mentioned like movies etc., it is simply because they have no consideration for others. Unfortunately, this is probably a reflection of our society. People no longer seem to understand that even though we are very fortunate to have all the rights and options that we do, that in many cases our rights end where other's begin.