a girl my sis is friends w/ told my sister i was smoking in the b/r, but i wasnt the girl i was with was, my mom over heard and went through my room, she claims to have found a ciggerette but threw it away, i know shes bluffing, but she did find an aderol pill on my dresser, which belonged to the same friend i was in the b/r with.now im grounded untill i confess, but i already told her the truth she just doesnt believe me, i really should pick better friends but no one else will talk to me...i wish i could switch schools, but all the nearby schools are the same as mine....i feel like telling her that i did do it...but i cant say that cuz its not true...what should i do?
2006-11-28 02:26:16 · 30 answers · asked by So over-used 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take one of those at home drug tests. Good luck
2006-11-28 02:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the lines of communication are frayed and you both need to reconnect so that you can trust each other again. Good advice to offer a drug test! You might also try to get her to talk about your concerns about the kids at school you hang around with - she just might have some insight and suggestions for helping you get new friends. Maybe join some activity that she is interested in also would rebuild that trust. I know how difficult it is to be telling the truth yet suspected of lying. Get your Mom involved with solving the bigger problem of good friends before you DO end up on that druggy side. Not worth the risk to your life!
2006-11-28 02:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by mdetaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your therapist what you posted in your question here and tell them you are in a no win situation and you need to find a way out, with your sister if you can. By going to the authorities you may get split apart unless you find someone willing to tak e you both. So decide before you leap. with that said the longer you stay at either place the more you are going to be progammed down so that you have no self esteem and will go and do the things you are being accused of because you might as well cause that's what people think. Then they will win because they(he) dragged you into the same hole they are in. Don't go down that road. Right now you are no better as well as no worse than most people on the Earth today. Think about how you will make your life better with your therapist then go about doing it. Good Luck!!!
2016-05-22 22:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are test kits available at the pharmacy and on-line. Educate your parents.
If she is truly unfair (and it sounds like she is) then she will tell your friends parents and that will take care of her ever talking to you again.
For a grounding to work you have to be miserable while she is not.
Stay in the room with her like an eight year old and make her pay attention to what you ARE doing and NOT doing. call her constantly whereever she is and update her on your homework or housework or latest bowel movement. She will remove the grounding just to get you out of the house every once in a while.
2006-11-28 02:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by clic1_0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's good advice. Tell her to give you a drug test or shut the **** up.
That's what I do when cops want me to do the roadside sobriety test. I refuse. Give me a breathalizer test or go away.
I won't do that foolish test by the side of the road. I always"flunk". It's too subjective. Cops lie every time and give you the breathalizer anyway. So I cut through the bullsh*t
The law says I can't refuse a breathalizer or I lose my license. There is no law about walking a straight line or touching my nose.
Of course I realize that teenagers who do drugs will never admit it so maybe a drug test wouldn't help you.
2006-11-28 02:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what u can do here to prove ur innocense.
But for many others i must say that this is what u get when u r lying all the time. not all the time, but if ur parents, or ppl that u live with found out that u lied in the past, u lose the trust. now for you, u must try to regain the trust.
you do not have to accept what u did not do, but u need to apologize to ur mom that u ended up in a compromising situation, and shall try harder to not to get into such mess again.
my famous quote is do whatever u want to do, but never lose the trust that other ppl have in u
2006-11-28 02:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in close contact with someone who IS doing drugs, so its natural your rents think you are..but my question to you is, how could you have all this going on in your house and all your parents did is ground you? The only way you will be able to (sorta) ease their minds is to not be friends with this girl anymore, but as you said she is your only friend. If she is snorting ADDERALL, you really need to help her, that is serious ****....and if you are still being grounded, I would assume you are no older than 14 or 15, correct? It sounds like everyone needs to get a handle on this situation....btw if you really arent doing drugs, walgreens sells home drug testing kits
2006-11-28 02:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by dramafreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and have a serious discussion with her. Are there any family members you can invite to mediate the situation? They actually sell at home drug tests at general drug stores. Ask her to go buy one, then she can stand over you as you take it to prove to her that you are not doing drugs. If she won't buy the test you buy one and do it in front of her. Having friends that do drugs is a sticky situation and you should be careful what you do around them and what they do around you.
2006-11-28 02:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly honest about what you are sayin prove it to her. Tell your mom that you will do anything to prove to her that you are not smokin. Take a test or do whatever she perfer you to do in order to prove it to her. I don't understand why your own mother will not believe you any way. Have you givin her any doubts in the past? That what happens when you lie to your mom. It is hard for them to believe you again. If not, continue to stick your grounds. When you have cooled off, try to talk to her face to face and let her know how you feel.
2006-11-28 02:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to take a home drug test, they are cheap at any drug store. Just make sure your not the one bluffing, or that you haven't been exposed to second hand smoke (pot) as that could show up on the test as well, depending on length of exposure.
2006-11-28 02:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your Mom and explain just what you said here. You weren't the one smoking, the pill wasn't yours, and you need to learn how to pick better friends. If your Mom still doesn't believe you, then face the music -- you are going to have to earn her trust all over again.
2006-11-28 02:29:31 · answer #11 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋