if your dating someone and he still goes out with the ex as friends sometimes is that ok?

Answer 1

That sounds like bad news.

Answer 2

This is such a gray area, and people's opinions on this topic vary wildly. But as a general rule, I'd say No.

Once two people have slept together, I think it makes it nearly impossible for them to carry on a platonic relationship. Even if they don't fool around or sleep together when they see each other "as friends," that sexual chemistry will always be there, and the possibility that something could happen becomes a very easy place to fall into, since it's happened before and there's familiarity.

I also think that people tend to keep in touch with their exes because they are not completely ready to let go, and they are keeping their options open. I've done that before, and have known other people who admit to doing it. Now that I have someone I love and know is "the one," all interest in staying friends with exes has completely vanished. It never even crosses my mind anymore.

If you are "the one" for your boyfriend, then I doubt he would still be seeing his ex, even as friends. There are always exceptions, and I don't know you or him, but I would just caution to keep your eyes open during your relationship with him!

Answer 3

I dated a guy for 6 yrs that was still friends with his ex. They knew each other for 9 yrs. There were times that I was jealous when he went to see her, I made it a point to go with him. Then the tables turned with my last bf. I stayed friends with my ex of 6 yrs and my last bf didn't trust me to be around him. He even went to the point of telling me to tell him I couldn't be friends with him anymore, I did and it was horrible, I felt like I was breaking up with him all over again. I no longer date that guy and I still talk to my ex of 6yrs every once in a while. He understood and knew that the guy i was with was a jerk. My ex of 6 yrs is now married. The foundation to a good relationship is trust. If you don't have that the relationship isn't solid.

Answer 4

Probably so if that is all it is. It may be that their situation as far as their divorce is not solved. It may be that one or the other has a business reason for seeing the other. It may be that they have just decided to be friends. It may be that each ones to maintain a good relationship with the other to have access to the children if there are any produced from the marriage. It does not necessarily mean that he is not in love with you. If you want to be sure of his motives then ask him why he is seeing his ex.

Answer 5

it depends. Does it bother "you" that he does this? if so then yes its wrong but you have to tell him that it bothers you and you would like for him not to do this. if not then you are a very secure woman and I envy you! lol What is right and wrong is defined by the relationship. The two of you need to sit down and establish some rules and bounderies that both of you are confortable with and can stick to. If you love and respect one another as equals this should not be a problem, if it is a problem maybe you should re evaluate your relationship!

Answer 6

That would make ,me naturally skeptical. As long as it's truly "as just friends", then it's probably okay...if it's with a group of "other friends", then it's probably innocent.
But...if it's WITH ONLY EACH OTHER, the only legitimate reason for it would be if they have kids, otherwise I'd be wary.
Does it make for a lot of fights between you and the one you're dating? Unless the above criteria apply, I'd have some deep problems with my significant's position.

Answer 7

Unless yall are in a committed relationship he can practically do what he pleases. Let me break it down to ya, unless this guy has giving you something to indicate you are the only one and will be the only one, you have no papers on him. He can date whoever he wants and so can you.

Answer 8

i think it is ok you should trust him but just let him know how you feel but also don't be to sure remember they used to have a thing once before but it is possible for ex's to be friends i know. and it also depends on what kind of guy is he.

Answer 9

You might try mentioning to him that it makes you uncomfortable. His reaction will tell you where you stand.

Unfortunately for you, unless and, until he tells you that you guys have an exclusive relationship, he can go out with whomever he wants.

Answer 10

You are the one in the relationship now. If it is ok with you and you trust him, yes. If you are uncomfortable, then no. If he respects you, he will understand.