but i love him. i didnt have sex but still cheated. what do i do i want him back and he wants us to be normal again he says he misses me and loves me but it will take along time to deal with this. what do i do i know that i need to regain his trust but how can i make it a faster process. i love him and dont want to lose him and i know he doesnt want to lose me what do i do?!?!?! help please!
2006-11-28 02:10:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What makes you want to tell him?You've keep it for 2 good years and you're letting the cat out of the bag to lose the relationship.Let me tell you something,i know that you love him,but sometimes,something have to remain as secret forever.There are mistakes that can be accepted,there are some that are really a let down.
2006-11-28 02:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by ike mie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't really understand why you told him after a long time like almost a year. If you had decided to be keeping it from him, why would you tell him now, that I just don't get. But anyway, you have told him now, and you can't really do anything unless he wants you back.
Apparently he still wants you, but he is in doubt. I am sorry to say this, but there is nothing you can do to speed up the process of him trusting you again. You will just have to give him time and space to figure out what he wants, if he loves you, he will take you back and live with the doubts, don't worry sugar, just go with the flow.
2006-11-28 02:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by devviash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops, you did make two mistakes. One should never tell that to a bf. As my mother, and grandmother, and every older women I know says (and experience should be heard), men have a harder time forgiving infidelity... they have a harder time healing their ego. There may be exceptions, but unfortunately, society, as it is now, does not raise that many exceptions. So, while a girl would prefer a bf telling her about his infidelity (and would heal that differently), that may not work the same way with men... (the "treat others as you would like to be treated" rule has some exceptions in girls-boys relationships). So find a way to help him heal his ego first... and then, give some time to rebuild the trust.
2006-11-28 02:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by mmsc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that guilt eats you up...but why didnt u tell him back at the time, why tell him now? Thats what has probably made it worse!
You should be honest from the start, ask urself why u cheated in the first place and why did u manage to hide it for so long....? If you love him, why did you do it in the first place!??
2006-11-28 02:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do for your realtionship is to always be honest from now on, never cheat on him again, and let time heal the wound. don't act like it never happened. and if both of you are willing to make this work then it will.
i have a freind, who cheated (sex) on her live in boyfriend and they worked things out because they wanted to. Now 3 years later they are marreid and expecting their first baby.
2006-11-28 02:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to fast forward the trust issue. It takes time, if you two really love each other, and if it is meant to be, he'll take you back. But, the trust has been broken and you need to rebuild this trust, and it take time. Goodluck
2006-11-28 02:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Laura G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you could ever again have a healthy relationship because he can never know - 100% for sure - that he can trust you, and trust is the foundation of any loving relationship.
2006-11-28 02:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anne C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 06:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't put a time line on trust. Once it's lost it takes a while for it to be gained. Just be honest from now on and learn from your mistakes.
2006-11-28 02:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have cheated in the first place. but you cant speed up the process. he needs to trust you on his on time, you cant make somebody trust you again. especially after such a big mistake.
2006-11-28 02:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋