There's this guy I'm attracted to. We've been really good friends for a long time but never romantically involved. I've been going through a lot lately and he's really been there for me. I feel really close to him, he loves my kids and they're crazy about him. He says he'd like us to spend more time together but he's going through a bad breakup. I know I should probably back off an let him resolve that but it's so hard, I really care about him. I would be so hurt if he decided to give his relationship another chance. I really don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him as a friend but things are so much more complicated now that we've slept together. What do I do now?
2006-11-28 02:05:53 · 5 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see you are discovering the true cost of free sex.... the worry, the instability, the lack of commitment, what will the future bring, etc.
What do you do now? Stop having sex with someone to whom you have no commitment or visa versa. Secondly, give him his space. If he just went through a serious break up let him resolve those issues. This could take years. And it will be safer for you. There is an adage that goes, "Hurt people hurt people.' Save yourself some pain.
Concentrate on who you are, what you want, what is important to you. This will serve you well in many ways including attracting the person with whom you can have a healthy relationship. Self confidence is a very attractive feature.
2006-11-28 02:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would simply just talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you both are interested in dating one another take things slow and be sure to communicate your feelings with one another openly.
2006-11-28 10:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by MichiganFan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with Michigan. Step up girl!
2006-11-28 10:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by sieg_wahrheit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him and tell him how you feel. Talking really works.
2006-11-28 10:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is a good guy. a guy who is closer to the kids is mostly a good man.
if you trust him, nothing is to worry. accept him when he propose.
2006-11-28 10:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋