Right guys, i need some help, because i have been seeing and sleeping with a guy and now i dont know what the hell is going on in his head.
The trouble is, the sisuation between us is so complicated that if anyone ever found out we were seeing each other (large age gap) both our lives would be over, but non the less we have been very discreetly meeting up, talking together, opening up to one another, and having great sex.
He said the sex was fantasic, and he is very, very affectionate with me and lovely when I see him ,but recently he hasn't been in as much contact, we can go for 4-5 days without speaking or texting, but then, like last night i spoke to him for the first time in 4 days and he was lovely with me, "i'm here for you....." blah blah and i was supposed to be staying at his house but he seems to be avoiding me doing it. I am getting really mixed messeges and I don;t know what to do, i feel like a pest texting him and a ***** for ignoring him! I love him & CAN'T lose him
2006-11-28 01:59:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You, my friend, are "dickmatized."
Is the age gap between you guys illegal where you live? If it isn't , the guy has been just using you fro a pin cushion the whole time. If he wasn't, you'd be going out in public, and he wouldn't be afraid of what anyone had to say.
Another option, unfortunately, is that he may be married. Is he? Maybe that's why you can't stay at his house all of a sudden. You need to find out.
Think about it:
You're all in love, and he thinks it's okay to only call you whenever, and then you'll have sex, and then you don'[t hear from him. You've been opening up to each other? Have you? Do you really know how this man feels about you? What's he up to when he's not with you?
And don't feel bad for ignoring him. That's what he's doing to you. He's really taking advantage of you.
Something more than age is the problem. Either you find out what it is, or you you'll have to leave him.
A real man's opinion.
2006-11-28 02:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number. Is he financially and emotionally stable? Would he go to the end of the world for you? It's not every day you get that, trust me. It sounds like there is some shame issues there that need to be thrown out. If you go through life worried about what other people think you could end up pretty miserable because everyone has an opinion. Follow your heart! But don't let good sex be the motivating force. REALLY analyze the situation. Can/would be take care of you in every aspect of life?
2006-11-28 10:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being an older man ,he is either married or he was hurt in a previous relationship and taken for a ride by a woman and he is wary of not just you but all women. Talk to him and try to be understanding.
2006-11-28 10:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is only interested in the sex now. Get rid of him. If you can't be together in public, your relationship won't last. Find someone your own age that can be with.
2006-11-28 10:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was busy. Don't read too much into it.
2006-11-28 10:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just using you for sex
2006-11-28 10:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i bet youre a minor and hes a creepy old perv......drop him....
2006-11-28 10:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋