Why is it, every time I find a guy who I think is everything I've ever wanted, he ends up having some sort of psychological problem - whether it be neediness (to the extreme), wussiness (as in doesn't have any testosterone), cluelessness (can't read body language) or nyphomania (with other women)...... (Is there any guy out there reading this who doesn't have any of the above???) Please send resume.
2006-11-28 01:51:58 · 27 answers · asked by shez_a_maneater 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me
i'm 5'10"
185lbs
26 yr old single
just med school last summer
working as intern at hosipital in nyc(pays very little until internship finished then the big buck should start roling in)
part time at night as a dancer at chippendales (pays ok enough to survive in nyc)
hobbies: working out
last relationship: college it lasted 3 1/2 years them she cheated
2006-11-28 02:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by NOT IN USE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Well to me the answer to this question is that all people have problems, are changing, growing, and learning. Some people do this at different rates, and some are hopeless it would seem. I think that much of it has to do with mental maturity, and I think guys are far behind girls in this department. I've met plenty of old men who still can't express feelings, or even acknowledge that they have them. This seems to come much more naturally to girls, and in that they can be honest with themselves and the ones who they love. Maybe the guys you have been with were just not ready. Maybe they didn't know what love was yet. Maybe they were not being honest with you or with themselves. Maybe they have some other issues that I'm not even discussing here.
The thing that ties this all together with your question is personality type. You may be attracted to a certain type of guy, or certain types of guys may find that you give them what they need. Maybe they are taking advantage? This can be on purpose, or not, but you can't let people take advantage of you, no matter who they are.
Being young and looking for love is tough. I think that as you get older and as your future mate gets older these problems will fade, excluding people with mental illness of course. That is another story. I can't say that I know it all and have all that much experience because I am only 26 years old. I have learned a few hard lessons though, and this is my best answer to your question.
2006-11-28 10:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hansel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what age category your in.
Plus, before you point at men as being the problem, look at what you are attracting or choosing in men.
Point in case:
I know a lot of guys that constantly complain about the women they date. But, I see that they constantly go after the "arm candy" type women. Then the guys cant understand why these women are so self centered, shallow, greedy and gold diggers.
I tell them to re-evaluate what they are really looking for. Either find someone with a good personality and be happy or continue to look for the beauty queens and wonder why they break your heart and your bank account.
2006-11-28 09:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're meeting guys in the wrong place. Stop dating guys from the gym or the nightclub, 'cause that's where it sounds like you go. We not try an art gallery or the science centre.
If you go to the dog pound, you'll only find dogs. Expand your choices and go to the SPCA, you'll get a much better range of choices.
2006-11-28 09:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only suggestion that can be given to you is that you move to the land of the perfect people. There you will find the perfect man who will meet your every need exactly the way that you want them to.
The biggest problem is that they only allow perfect people to enter their community. You can be the judge as to whether you think you qualify.
2006-11-28 09:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men....well all men have there querks and things that might annoy us and irritate us. But we gotta learn to look past the 'annoying habits' - i.e you were seeing a 'wuss' but why did you go out with one if you want someone who is macho...I am concerened that you are not getting to know these guys before you spend time with them...
You will find the right guy, but how about getting to know him before jumping the gun....good luck and play it cool...whats the rush?!
2006-11-28 10:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should need a break. Dont involve with any man right now. Just freak out. After a time you will get a normal person
2006-11-28 10:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by || SMI || 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:| Come on now you can't just give up! Just keep on trying you will find someone! I believe you have been unlucky try to change it.
Well i don't have that things that you find in the men's you had, except maybe just little unfaithful NOT nymphomaniac, but again nobody is perfect!;)
2006-11-28 10:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by SacredMagic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you worth sending a resume' to? Sounds like you are cold(from neediness), controlling(from fussiness), can't communicate your feelings(from cluelessness), and can't fulfill your guy's needs. Are you worth even talking to?
2006-11-28 09:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jon O 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Frankly my dear it has allot to do with you, disposition, character and running holes in the walls from whence you come and choose from a dirty pack.
It's time to clean up your life and your mess and start choosing better character in you Men and get ones with muscles and good mind....larger than life:)
2006-11-28 09:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋