2006-11-28 01:48:58 · 14 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is caring and loving. This is the key in the relationship.
Then do not leave him for that.
It is very cultural and very family oriented. It is a taboo to some but if you must need this particular assurance then, ask him what is the reason he does not acknowledge, at least by saying "me too" when you say to him "I love you".
Then see if he acknowledges, in few days test him, if he does not say some thing close to it then you decide what is more important to you, him caring and loving or just the words.
2006-11-28 02:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. I will explain.
If you need him to 1) love you and 2) express verbally that he loves you, than yes, leave him because you will not be happy unless he does.
BUT love is something that happens on its own time, you can't rush it and it takes time to cultivate and grow, if he doesn't feel love for you, than he doesn't... so if you need it from him right now and you are not willing to wait for him to feel it, than you should leave. On the other hand, he may feel love for you and express it with his actions and that may be all he can do right now whether its because he's scared that saying the words will change the relationship or that he would feel too vulnerable expressing that verbally at this time....
So in the end, whether its a reason for you to leave him or not is entirely up to you- how important is him expressing his love verbally right now, to you?
I've personally been on the other end of the situation where I knew I was in love, I could tell him all these nice things and show him love in other ways but couldnt' get myself to say the three words. Everytime I wanted to, I would choke. That and I would make an excuse "Oh, its too early in the morning, I don't want to say it than start a weird discussion." "Oh, no, I don't really love him." I fought myself over it for at least a month until I finally spit it out.... ... ... but part of finding that someone is that you have to be compatible on all levels, he understands me and my commitment issues is why he was patient with me. While if you cannot wait, and he cannot say it, that in itself is a sign of incompatibility, and possibly you guys aren't good together and so you should see it as a sign to leave him.
Good luck, whatever you decide, there are plenty of fish in the sea, you'll be fine.
2006-11-28 09:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the reason to leave but since you have given it a thought maybe there is something telling you that something is 'off' and you should seek out what that something is. Do you have a reason to feel that he doesn't love you, accept you or respect you? If you do then you should confront him and tell him how you feel and why you feel that way. Ask him if he can change that and if he doesn't and you still feel under appreciated, yes, you should leave his ***. There are other fish in the ocean and there is no need to be stuck on the one that bites and stinks.
2006-11-28 09:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by pp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you been together. If it's recent you both cant possibly be in love already. If it's been awhile maybe he's just scared to take it to that level. Why don't you say it? Maybe he will see where your coming from and say it back after he knows what you feel. Guys get scared by this type of stuff. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 09:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not! all because you stay it does not mean that the person has to say it back. rather the person say it and mean it then say it because they are forced or feel they need to say it, b/c of the pressure they are feeling. i told my boyfriend way before he told me yeah it ate me up in the inside but he said it in his own way and time (3yrs and counting). but it is up to you in the long run, don't let the 3 little words break up something good. b/c if you guys r good then those words will come!
2006-11-28 09:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that he is just that your friend, you can stay until you find the one who loves you or go and hunt full time for him now.
2006-11-28 09:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was with a woman who said it once in six years. Actions do speak louder than words---sometimes.
2006-11-28 09:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by mjcariati1971 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naaa i hardly ever say i love my girl but i know how i feel about her i wud die rite now if she wanted me to! just remember that "I Love You" are just 3 words.
ppl can say i love u without even meaning it so dont worry ok!
2006-11-28 13:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lurve Doctor!!!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ask him whether he loves you. If he say yes then you can believe that he is shy in such matters.
2006-11-29 04:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes becuase he is taking you for granted.
2006-11-29 10:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Krishna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋