How to split time with families during the holidays?

Question

Me and my boyfriend are not married but i love his family so much, (they like me too) his mom and dad got a divorce many years ago and both are remarried to wonderful people. But i also have my family, and i love them very much too, except it's hard to split the time with them because they live about an hour away from us and all my other families. So my boyfriends families are convienitly right down the road. I would love to eventually have everyone over to our house for the holidays but we live in an apartment right now and thats not possible considering the size of each family. I was just hoping to get some feedback on how everyone else deals with this problem. Me and my boyfriend get in arguements about it regularly around this time, and all I want to do is make everyone happy, and I know that's not always possible. Please help me out if you can.

I guess I should've explained this earlier but yes my parents are still together, and we normally don't have a problem with his mom because we do that that weekend before christmas. It just seems like to me boyfriends dads family they feel bad when we aren't able to spend the whole time with them and same with my parents. Hid parents do ALOT for us and we see them all the time and I really don't get to spend that much time with my parents because they live so far away.

I guess the solution sounds simple when everyone else says it.

Thanks everyone.

Answer 1

Since you have so many places to be and so many people to see, I suggest you guys use the whole week before xmas to celebrate. I would spend a couple of days with his father and wife and then a couple of days with his mother and her husband and then spend a couple of days with your parents. But make sure you are back at your home for Christmas day to celebrate each other. What a great way to spread holiday cheer and make everyone happy. This way no one can be mad about who you spending Christmas day with, since it will be with each other at home. I realize this is alot of running around but thats what the holidays are all about, the hustle and bustle. However, I would get married and a bigger place so you can have everyone over at your house and let them do the traveling.....Merry Christmas and Good Luck!!

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are talking about. My soon to be husband and I have the same problem cause his parents are both divorces as well and have remarried too. It is a very touchy situation with us as well cause we both want to see our own families and each others. And to make things even harder on us we have daughter that will be 3 this Dec. 17th and everyone wants to see her too. We have been trying to come up with a solution for this problem for 4 years now and we still argue about it. My thought on it that you go to see like your family on Christmas Day this year and his family the weekend after and then next year you can go see his family on Christmas Day and then your family the weekend after. I don't know if that would work better for you or not, but it is just my suggestion. It is my suggestions with us too and we are trying to figure out how it will all work out. Well I hope it works for you guys. Good Luck and have a Very Merry Christmas!

Answer 3

Having non traditional holidays is the way to go. Who says that you have to have thanksgiving on that day spread it out and make the holidays a time of togetherness. Have a family dinner on a Sunday instead of the actual holiday. That way you have more time celebrating your extended family. More holidays more fun.

Answer 4

Spend xmas eve with his mother and her husband, xmas morning with your family (as they're all together), and xmas dinner with his dad and his wife (or any other combination will work too).

Lots of driving around, but you get to see them all. Since they're all great, everyone should be understanding. Just talk to them and see what works best for them and for you two.

Answer 5

Pick one day to spend with one family and pick another day to spend with the other family. It shouldnt matter what days they are as long as they are near the holidays. You can have more than one xmas yanno? I would save xmas day though to spend with just you and your boyfriend. Sounds perfect to me. Then everyone is happy.

Answer 6

Have the holiday's at your place. you will desire to invite your mothers and fathers on the two days so as that way you have on my own time with them and then invite the two factors on Christmas day, or visa versa. As for her getting disillusioned in case you do no longer spend a minimum of one night a week there for supper....nicely that's a controversy which you would be able to no longer whinge to all of us approximately yet your self. You and your husband would desire to get your existence returned on your administration and only say no to her and if it is a controversy whose situation is it? Hers. It her situation. She's responsible for her emotions and you're responsible on your loved ones. in case you do no longer desire to spend plenty time at the same time with your inlaws do no longer. It does no longer would desire to be complicated. do no longer be performed with and controlled. Be respectful and kindly decline. it is okay if she gets mad. it is her situation. sturdy luck.

Answer 7

A nice dinner out with each group of relatives.
Everyone can pick up their own tab.
You are not obligated to treat everyone.
OR you could reserve a room in a nice restaurant and have ONE BIG to-do with EVERYBODY at once.

Answer 8

One of the things I always hated when I was with my ex was getting together with her family. What a bore! I'd just switch it up. One year you go to his family and the next he goes to yours.