Is it wrong to play with someones feelings ?

Question

Well she rejected me. But for some reason has decided that she has made a mistake. At the time is was quite hurt by the rejection.
She keeps emailing me and txting me and I have been doing a bit of negative selling of my self. Saying stuff like she dosent even fancy me..... And that I hope that I will find someone as lovely as her to go out with me.

Is it wrong to play with her feelings in this way....? I do really like her but feel that she hurt me first and a little payback is in order.....

Thanks guys I have taken your advice and forgiven her.

Answer 1

yes it is wrong and its not nice being on the recieving end of it

Answer 2

Rejection sucks.. we all have been there at least once. Revenge as I call it has a way of making us feel better, but if you like this girl as you say then decided when to draw the line. You can play with her feelings now but if you did end up with her and she found out your in the dog house. She's admitted she made a mistake and she let you know where she stands if she's worth it then don't let this opportunity pass because it will be you with egg on your face all over again for letting her get away. Trust is a hard thing to rebuild, and you have to work at it. However only you can choose what path to take. You extracted payback now move on and get your girl..


Good Luck

Answer 3

Ok here's the deal...
1.) She likes the attention you were giving her before she rejected you...she is trying to get that back...because every girl likes to have a 'suitor' and be admired
2.) It is making her crazy that she doesn't have that anymore and by you treating her like crap just ignites the fire more

The truth is she will most likely hurt you again. I honestly don't think any kind of "payback' is necessary...as a matter of fact, in the long run, you will come out being the better man. Because once it comes to a head...and she finds out you were playing with her...she will destroy you; especially if you two are still in school and have similar social circles.

Here's an option...play it cool: Ignore her! Not only will it drive her crazy...but you won't get the rep of being a bad guy.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

In determining your own values, it says something to me about how you feel about what you are doing because you asked this question. How does making her "Payback," make you feel?

When it comes to "Payback" how would you want to be treated by someone when you had either hurt their feeling or made a mistake?

Have you expressed to her how she affected you to offer her an opportunity to apologize or explain her behavior?

Is this someone who behaves this way regularlly? If so do you really want to rekindle the friendship? If this is not her normal behavior what is it that you are gaining through the "Payback?"

If you do want to continue the friendship/relationship what impact do you think "payback" will have on any opportunitues in the future?

If you answer these questions, I believe you will find the answer in your answer.

Answer 5

Hmm, it depends what exactly you are doing and how much you mean it. While it is wrong to play with someone's feeling, there is something to be said for making someone see that you are not to be messed around and that she cant keep changing her mind about you. It worries me that you talk about payback, as hurting someone else just cos they hurt you does not solve anything and is a bad way to start a relationship. If you are able to hurt her deliberately, then it makes me wonder how much you really care about her.

Answer 6

A good Motto to follow for a happy life is that Today is the first day of the rest of your life. So forget the yesterday's and start today with a great feeling of positive thoughts and you will see that positive actions follow. Life is short don't waste another minute sharing feelings and love.

Answer 7

I know i would do the same thing. But I think it is wrong, and you might regret it later if you really like her. Maybe she made a mistake because she was too shy to let you know she really liked you too. I know i am that way. I am really shy if i like someone, and i have turned down lots of guys because of that. I think you should give her another chance. I think she really does like you, otherwise she wouldn't go through the trouble.

Answer 8

Just because she hurt you doesn't mean you must pay her back for that.. People do make mistakes and realize it at a later time... If she is serious about wanting you, then go for it! Now if your just playing hard to get, that is a different story, but remember don't play hard to get too long, because if you play too long she may loose interest again..

Answer 9

Yes, but it's also human nature to do so.

And by the way, relationship karma is a *****, so when things go very wrong for you, this lesson will sink in. I'm not trying to be mean here - it's just one of those learning through pain type of things.

Love ain't easy

Answer 10

well you are no longer feel the love for her, what's inside you now is a revenge. if you want to play her feelings, just imagine if someone on otherhand will play your feelings too, how you feel? don't make things worst. if you like her then you have to give her a 2nd chance, or else leave her for better and start a new life or relationship with other women.

Answer 11

Push her away to long and it may backfire. Stop wasting time and if you like her go for it. Don't play the "you hurt me so i'm gonna hurt you back" game. Not a good way to start off a relationship.