Why is it that there are more school shooting, more teen sex/pregnancys, disrespectful and out of control kids?
What should we do with them?
2006-11-28 01:33:05 · 21 answers · asked by Lily P 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
And I'm not sure yet if I'm for or against it.
My husb is for it, and does it occasionally.
My kids seem fine.
2006-11-28 01:34:54 · update #1
gwhiz: guess you would be appalled that he spanks me too, but for fun. LOL!!!
2006-11-28 01:41:44 · update #2
God tells that if we spare the rod we will spoil the child. He does not tell us to beat or abuse, just to correct. Believe me after a few good hard spankings a child soon learns to obey their parents., and then spankings are no longer necessary and as children grow punishment changes to time-outs, curfews, groundings, loss of phone privilages, etc... Disciple is needed .Limitations required. If all parents were to do this the crime ratings would plummet.
2006-11-28 01:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Like what other posters had said, I think that sometimes kids get a little out hand and that the mere "talk" will not do it. I know because I was once hard headed kid myself. I've been spanked a few times by my parents but I did not grow up violent. Spanking as a form of punishment didn't mess up my brain. Gosh! Sometimes the laws are so insane.
Spanking and abuse are two different things. :)
2006-11-28 09:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between spanking and abusing. Everyone has taken it out of context. If your kid is about to stick a fork in a light socket it would be ridiculous just to say no cause they'll think it is a game. A pat on the butt is not going to make a deranged psycho killer.
2006-11-28 09:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I believe in spanking and I also believe NO should be said one time. Once that is established in a young kids mind that no means no and when they do wrong they get a whippin, then I believe the child will know fast his/her bounderies. I do not believe in beatings at all, and the only proper place to whip a child in on the bottom.
2006-11-28 09:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the Scripture says that in the last days, "evil men and seducers would wax worse and worse", and that people in general would be "....proud, boastful, incontinent, DISOBEDIENT to PARENTS, ....." so it's not a surprise to me that we've reached this stage in our development. I believe in spanking, but only in a sense of correction, not anger, for the Scripture says, "Provoke not your children to wrath", therefore I don't plan on "sparing the rod" because "He that spareth the rod HATETH his son"! There's a time and place for spanking, but only with SELF CONTROL, not rage. If we use the rod of correction properly, there will not be any discord or malcontent in our homes.
2006-11-28 11:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by bigvol662004 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We definitely believe in spanking our children when needed. They don't get beat, by any means, but they do know that when they have done something so bad that they will get a spanking. Believe me, it is rare because I have very good children. Both my husband and I were raised this way too and we turned out to be good people.
Spare the rod and spoil the child couldn't be more truthful.
2006-11-28 09:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Discipline does not equal Corporeal punishment. Those who have to resort to it or have never questioned their thoughts on this often think it does. They'll point to pampered/spoiled 'liberal' kids who are the result of bad parenting based upon 'liberal' ideas of over-permissiveness and 'sparing the rod'. And then it gets even worse where false correlations are made between current societal problems and this. The truth is that DISCIPLINE is the important element: NOT corporeal punishment, NOT permissiveness, etc. Discipline that thinks corporeal punishment is necessary doesn't end up helping the child; it's not helpful psychologically (regardless of the attempt of many to avoid this topic because they think it points a finger at their own parents). I was subjected to it and it was awful. I know my friend's kids are well disciplined without it and are the most self-assured, well-behaved kids. With the corporeal punishment, you may get temporarily (or even long-term) well-behaved kids but there will be some part of their self-esteem/self-assurance that will be compromised.
2006-11-28 09:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Spank them. There is no other way and its proven again and again. Spanking is not abuse and certainly does not increase violence.
The problem is people dont know the difference between spanking and abuse. Abuse is bad but a loving parent will never abuse their children.
You should spank your children and be consistent about it. Tell them that you love them and afterwards dont talk about it. Forgive them.
I was spanked and i am not violent at all. Its such a great gift my parents gave me because it taught me love and respect with emphasis on discipline.
If you love your children you will spank them.
2006-11-28 09:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by thatniceguy 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
"Spare the rod and spoil the child." There is a difference between spanking for discipline, and physical abuse. I believe in occasionally spanking my children when it's appropriate, and they have all received their share. It does not teach them violence. I will not have disrespectful spoiled brats.
If it works for you, do it.
2006-11-28 09:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Lack of real parenting and more of sitting kids in front of the TV and pumping them full of meds they don't need.
EDIT: When I was growing up, only the threat of getting spanked was enough to keep my brother and me in line.
2006-11-28 09:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋