I am currently dating a girlf for the past 4 months who just broke up with a boyfreind of 3 years. He is trying to come back but she tells me she wants to be with me but is still attached. Last night i told her i felt that we needed space so she can solve her attachment issues but she planned that we just date and take it slow till she gets over him. Did i make a mistake and initiate a break and probably lose her for that.
2006-11-28 01:32:42 · 9 answers · asked by velvetsmartguy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to walk away from this girl and leave her alone until she's had time to process and heal from her breakup. Until then, you will only be the rebound relationship that has no chance of working out.
2006-11-28 01:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be attached still to my ex and was going out with my new bf for a long time. I got over it because my new bf was understanding and showed me in the long run that there wasen t really anything better to miss from the ex. For my experience, being alone wouldn't of solved any issues... just make me more insecure.
2006-11-28 09:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
I think she would just realise that you don't her to rush into anything if she feels confused.
It's very nice of you to offer to give her the time to sort her feelings out.
However, if you decide to do this after all I would still keep in pretty regular contact with her.
She may be loyal to you and just need to get over her feelings fo the other guy, but he may sense she is a little confused and prey on thst weakness.
Just do what ever she feels is best.
2006-11-28 09:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you made a mistake.
She shouldnt have got 'too envolved' with you while still liking/loving someone else. Thats not fair to both of you.
Take some time apart; dont see eachother everyday but talk everyday. Help her get over this.
In the same aspect, she needs to ignore other dude and concentrate on you...if she really wants to be with you.
2006-11-28 09:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she cant over her bf and just wants you around so she doesn't feel lonely or is trying to make him jealous. If she said she's still attached then your only going to keep getting more and more hurt. So as much as it hurts let her go.
2006-11-28 09:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by ¤My Goodies¤ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it very well! It will give her the space she needs to get over him and put you in a great light for being so understanding!
2006-11-28 09:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by lefty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing. you dont want her to be with you and pine after him. let her go and she'll come back when she's ready, and if not then you know that you weren't going to be first in her life.
2006-11-28 09:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
better to loose her now for him then when you get too attached
2006-11-28 09:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you prolly should leave her. she obviously doesnt knw wad she is doing
2006-11-28 09:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋