Okay,my bff jus broke up with her boyfriend a few weeks ago.and i have liked him for awhile now and we talk and hug( which by the way his hugs are very nice,lol)alot.But supposedly since im sooo pretty she's jealous of me because of that and because im skinny.Anyways, now she's not talking to me and i don't know why, but i wrote her a apology letter saying how sorry i was for anything i might have done to get her to stop talking 2 me and i also put that i would stop talking to her ex for awhile to see if that would get her um... un-mad at me.
WHAT SHOULD I DO, I LIKE HER EX ALOT AND I THINK HE LIKES ME BUT SHE DOESN'T WANT ME TO GO OUT WITH HIM.
2006-11-28 00:54:03 · 29 answers · asked by fade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if he like u and u like him then u have to live ur life and she will understand that both of them love each other
and if she really care about u she will understand that
just explain to her by simple way that is love not a present or a gift
love is not games
tell her that u and this guy loved each other and she cant force him to love her again
2006-11-28 01:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its sad that you are even thinking about dating your best friends ex. It doesnt even seem like they have been apart that long. I can understand the attraction between you and her ex, its not a sin to like someone that your best friend was with, its just not right to want to be with him right after they broke up. If I were you, I would keep the friendship(or whatever you have with her ex) in the back of your mind. Talk to him every few weeks, but nothing past that. Let time pass (more than 3 or 4 weeks, were talking about 2-3 months if not more) and see what happens. If you guys are still interested in each other go ahead and go out on a date and see how things are. Who knows, maybe by then you will have both moved on. Good luck. Just remember my favorite saying "Chicks before *****!"
2006-11-28 09:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. That's why you wrote the apology note. You know the rules of friendship. You never choose a guy over your best friend and you never go out with the ex. You have a choice to make as to which one of them you want because you can't remain her best friend and date her ex. Let me just remind you that friendships last forever but in a few months you probably won't even like this guy anymore. Choose wisely.
2006-11-28 09:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How good of friends are you really?? if she is jealous of you for what you look like, that isn't going to change and how many problems has it cause the two of you. If not many, then I would say boys, guy will come and go though out both of your life's. and a friend a good true friend stays. So, is the time you would spend with him worth more than your friendship with her. if her jealously has cause lot of problems, then it would be a daily battle to stay friends with her,it would always cause problems and you cant built a strong friendship with that between the two of you.
Still torn, then find out the reason she doesn't want you to go out with him.If its because she still has feelings and cares for him for real, then you cant. if it is just because or it would be weird for her, then you can. that is just being selfless. and she can get over that.
2006-11-28 09:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a horrible friend. Why would you go after your friends ex? What's wrong with you? Who said that you were sooooo pretty? Even if you are pretty you are ugly in the inside. I wouldn't want a friend like you. I hope that bff never talks to you again. Get a life and find another guy to go after.
2006-11-28 09:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Inez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealous because you're so pretty and skinny? I hope to God you're making a bad joke other wise you're about the most conceded stuck up ***** I've ever seen.
She's mad because it's a well known rule that you do NOT date a friends ex under any circumstances if you want to keep that friend. If you want to go out with him it will cost you her friendship and from the sound of it she'd be better off. so go for it.
2006-11-28 08:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dark 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
although she broke up with her boyfriend she probably still has hurt there. you are the one that should be there to help ease the pain and add support. going off with her man will most certainly destroy your relationsip with her and make her feel worse. she'd get over it in time but, she'd never be your friend again. think of the man also. why did she leave him? do you want to go through the same thing she went through? it's good at first with him but, give it a while. he'll treat you the same way if not, worse. just think about it.
2006-11-28 09:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by laviniablue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the reality is she is mad at you because he broke up with her because of you that is why she is mad she thinks that you two broke her up and he is encouraging the idea if he cared about you and not just liked you in the you giver me butterflies sort of way because the only way the butterflies don't go away is if there is genuine love behind them but if he really cared he'd have never put you in that position. Yes it is possiblie that you two get married live hapopily ever after and never speak to your bff again it is more possible he hurts you like he hurt her and you still lose your bff reality is you have both betrayed her and it really doesn't matter because you are the one that has to live with you.
2006-11-28 09:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by t_j_watkins 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men will come and go, but friends are for life. You don't cross that line ever. You need to understand that you are not her friend. If you were, this situation would have never happened. You are ignorant, rude and you deserve to be unhappy. How mean are you to think you are so much better than her. Funny, but you are getting her left overs. You should feel real pretty now.
2006-11-28 08:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know one thing that if she was a true friend then she would let u go to him and by ur words i think she is very selfish and she is a very jealous kind of a girl but if u really love him than u must tell him but u must wait for a while i think may be she is hurted
but then too u dont need a selfish friend u must be having toooo many friends in ur life but i will tell u one thing i think that he should come and tell u that he loves u and not u!!!
2006-11-28 09:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by moran_kandlerkar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide whether you want to be friends with this girl or not. I wouldn't be trusting a man who thinks he can compliment you by betraying your friend and comparing her negatively with you. Are you really so insecure that you'd fall for that? He sounds like a total piece of work... ew! How could you hug a man with such a fugly mind?
2006-11-28 08:59:53 · answer #11 · answered by internits 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋