I split up with my ex 3 months ago after I found out he had been cheating on me.......I dumped him but the brain dead girl he was shagging stayed with him....now he wants friendship from me...cant do enough for me...buys me things gives me things. He says he is so unhappy with the other girl but is too spine less to finish it. Dont worry I have no intention of taking him back, me not silly....but its difficult to avoid him cause we have the same friends. Should i just take advantage of his offers.....?
p.s. iam over 30 so its not a school kid thing x thanks
2006-11-28 00:48:08 · 19 answers · asked by pinkkitten 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah he is trying to make amends for cheating on you and you have had a lucky escape but if you don't want him back then what is the harm accepting his gifts, your not leading him on or anything like that your being courteous, sod him- drop hints of what you want for christmas then give them to others, he'll be like your private santa and save you a fortune!!!
2006-11-28 00:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anna L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a clean break. Tell him that under no circumstances would you consider getting back with him, and that you have a hard time being even friends with him since you can't trust him. As nice as it is to have him keep giving you stuff and doing things for you, as long as you let him, he retains hope that you'll get back together. Just be firm, tell him to stop and that from now on you won't accept anything from him. (If you really want to show you mean business, give back all the stuff he's already given you)
2006-11-28 00:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you take his gifts, you give him hope.
He is looking for the opportunity to have his cake and eat it too, I doubt he has ANY intention of breaking off with this new girl.
Refuse his gifts, if he continues to send things after telling him to knock it off, destroy them and mail them back.
I had to finally, cut up a dozen roses and take them personally to my ex. Told him face to face, to leave me alone. He made his choice and chose "her", I'm not second best and I need to let go of him and get on with my life. After I dumped the rose pieces all over his living room rug, I informed him that anything else he sent me would end up the same way.
He got the hint and I haven't heard from him since.
2006-11-28 01:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if i was you I would sit him down and tell him under no circumstances is he gonna win you back, your happy to be his friend and you will be there if he needs to talk. Tell him that the pressies are nice, but considering you are both just friends they are a bit inappropriate and see where you go from there.
Good luck
2006-11-28 00:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Scottish Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... You have no right to take advantage of him. Let him no that you are thankful for the gifts but no amount of gifts will win your heart back. If he still sends them well then shame on him for wasting his money
2006-11-28 00:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak, wants to make sure you're within reach and therefore will have a direct link to your personal life.
Distance yourself, you don't need to be arsey, just firm enough to let him know he made his choice and you've got to start again without his involvement.
2006-11-28 00:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by PvteFrazer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with receiving. Better even when you give too. Goods or services. Don't we all love presents.
On an honest opinion, you should know what you feel and let him know.
2006-11-28 01:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. Tell him to buzz off and to stop bothereing you unless you really want to be his friend then go ahead but is your move in my opinion I 'll just give him all of his stuff back and tell him to stop bothereing you.
2006-11-28 00:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by squeeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you start taking these things he might get the wrong idea , know matter how many times you tell him you know us men we can be very thick when we want to be and he could us it against you in future good luck
2006-11-28 01:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
na dont take advantage of his offers, thats not nice really.
i think he is trying to buy your love, you are going to have to explain in easy understandable words to (lol) that it will never happen, you two will never be an item again. xXx
2006-11-28 00:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋