We met each other at work under a funny circumstance.he noticed me and chased me ever after. i didn`t really care then, although flattered...
Some months after i gave in, but i didn`t treat him very well.I did this because i misunderstood some things on his behaviour. i didn`t give him the time he normally had to take, i rushed to take results. Anyway after this and until now - 2 .5 years after - we see each other rarely, we never stopped seeing! There is always so much passion between us. i found out that he is the one i want. But after our seperating he states that he wants to remain alone and we can keep on seing each other with that frequency- if i want(1 time/3 months!!!!). He is alone, never married, wants to remain in his silent environment.
i have done millions of efforts 2 bring him back 2 a relationship.he is not interested (not with me, but with any woman).please help...
2006-11-28 00:34:04 · 18 answers · asked by EMBELL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sure that between the 15-year age gap and your lackadaisical attitude, he is in a shutdown phase. I wopuld maintain minimal but consistant contact with him until he makes another decision, but don;t wait too long
2006-11-28 00:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 2⤋
You missed the boat Hun, have you never heard of the phrase never know what you have got until its gone, sorry you should have taken more time to understand him when he was your man, by your own admission you treated him bad so as far as I can see you have got what you deserve.
I expect he is also not up for getting back with you because of this, maybe if you laid your cards on the table and held you soul bear and told him what you have just told us here, he may give things another chance, but if he does, think of him instead of yourself next time, if the passion is still there then you still have a base to work from, but be honest with him.
Sorry didn't want that to sound like a lecture if it did, I was just being straight with you.
Good Luck Hope it works out the way you want it to.
2006-11-28 08:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Migz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to tell you this but he's not interested in you. He may have chased you at first, but at some point he lost interest in you. Of course he'll tell you that he's not interested in any other woman and that he just doesn't want a relationship because he's trying to be nice and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If he chased you at first why wouldn't he chase another woman? When he lost interest in you the tables turned and you started chasing him. You are no longer a challenge and men like challenges (that's why they like sports and video games). You are now only a woman that he views as a booty call or someone to see when he's bored.
Let this guy go. You two are not on the same page. You want a relationship and he doesn't. Don't play games with him. Find someone who wants to be with you.
2006-11-28 08:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looks like he got tired of being the door mat. You treat a guy like crap and what do you expect to happen? He wasn't going to stick around and take that forever. I'm afraid there's almost no hope of getting this relationship back. This went on for years. He waited and waited for change. He's probably done waiting now. You've more than likely used up his patients. Move on and use this as a lesson: When you find someone whose willing to give you the world don't throw sand in their face.
2006-11-28 08:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you just need to walk away. If you have done a million things to get him back, then a million and one is not going to do the trick.
Sounds like this person just isn't interested. Let it go, and find someone that really wants to be with you. Why waste your time chasing someone that doesn't want you in return? Aren't you worth more than that?
2006-11-28 08:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Apparently, whether it's due to the age difference or not, the two of you are just in two different places in your lives. You've both wanted the same thing at one time....just not at the SAME time.
Sadly, there's not really too much that can be "done", people want what they want WHEN they want it.....and then they don't.
It all just boils down to timing....and unfortuneatley you guys are in different "time-zones" in life.
2006-11-28 08:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was really attracted to you but you have hurt him and made him confused over and over. For now, best to just respect his wishes, treat him nicely, apologise and explain your past behaviour, give him the space and time he needs, don't be a push-over, and see if he will come around.
2006-11-28 08:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He chased, you resisted.
He persisted.
You conceded so the chase is no fun any more.
He's on another chase.
Infantile but male.
Dump any idea that he could be a possible, he hasn't grown up yet and probably never will.
And I'm a guy telling you that.
2006-11-28 08:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's given up on women, and you kind of have to respect that. You didn't treat him well when you were with him before, and he has no way of knowing that you'll do any better now. One time per three months sounds discouraging, and that's probably what he's after--hoping that you'll give up and leave him alone. You should probably do that.
2006-11-28 08:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are both the same you both want things that you can't have he was interested in you until he got you and now when you cant have him you are interested in the thing you cant have
this relationship is insane and you should ask yourself y u find the things you cant have so fascinating.. then you should call him and tell him that you want no contact with him any more.
I guarantee that he will chase after you again after that.
2006-11-28 08:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋