My 4 year old daughter is going through this stage where she wines about everything! It's driving me crazy. Is this something I just have to wait out or is there something I can do to get her to stop wining.
2006-11-28 00:33:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First of all, never give in and allow her to have the thing she is whining for. She must learn on her own that whining is a very poor tactic for achieving her goals.
But, let's say she's thirsty and really *does* need a drink. She comes to you and starts whining about needing something to drink. You just calmly tell her that if she wants something to drink, she needs to ask like a big girl, and not a whiny little baby. If she then changes her tone and asks responsibly, she can have the drink.
This isn't an overnight cure, to be sure, but it should work in a reasonable amount of time.
2006-11-28 00:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 5 year old girl and a 2 year old boy. I told my kids that Mommy does not understand whines. I only speak and understand English. If they need or want something from me the must use English. It actually is funny. My daughter started whining when she did not want me to hear what she was saying. It worked. She does not whine at all anymore. My son does whine occasionally. All i have to do is ask him to use words or talk to me in English and he does.
2006-11-28 02:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whining is normal for 4 yr olds because they don't know how to express themselves yet. It is also a way to get attention. If they're sad or confused about something they will whine. Teach her how to talk instead of whine. I told my 4 yr old that I couldn't understand him when he whines, only when he talks and he has stopped. Be calm and patient with them. It is also a sign that they are getting sick and don't know what is wrong with their body. Get on her level and ask questions. She'll be fine.
2006-11-28 00:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will work best would be to do some active listening. Don’t punish her by telling her not to talk like a “whiny baby.” It will only shame her and not solve the whining problem. Children will often resort to whining when their parent is not actively listening. When their request is tuned out, they resort to whining to be heard.
When she starts to whine, get down to her level, look her in the eyes, and listen. Reflect back to her what you hear. Recognize her, hear her, and take her seriously. Don’t argue with her and don’t get “wishy washy,” i.e., “I think about that” or “Maybe tomorrow.” Say for example that she is whining for a cookie. Say things like “I know you really want a cookie. I wish a cookie was a healthy choice. I bet you would enjoy the biggest cookie in the world!” If she continues to whine after you have actively listened and reflected back what you hear, say to her “I’m finished talking about that.”
Help her to better express her feelings by empathizing with her. Say things like “I can tell you’re feeling very (angry, upset, hurt, mad, frustrated). What can we do about that?” Empathizing is a great way to help young children learn to express their emotions.
Help her to feel like a “Big girl” by saying things like “You did that by yourself! You climbed super high! You must be so proud! You used so many colors on your picture!” These phrases are great ways to help her to feel powerful, gain confidence, and show attention in a positive way. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-28 07:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the age where they get bored easy, u need to provide constant activities to keep her mind busy.
Get her tracing paper, playdoe, even simple egg cartons to punch, change activities often, they get bored easily which makes them whine.
Teach her to draw what she sees and see if it looks like the cartoon character or better.
She may be cuttin major teeth too, a dentist visit may help.
2006-11-28 03:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, the Fearsome Fours! Inform her that you can't understand her when she whines. If she wants to communicate with you, then she'll have to use a normal voice. It works wonders with our three year old.
2006-11-28 01:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old sister & a 2 year old sister.
eventually it will be a little better.
but my mother does not control my sisters.
my sisters control my mother, & don't let her whining get to you.
it's annoying i know, but she'll just learn to take advantage of you.
2006-11-28 00:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lindseyyy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore that seems to work best with my 4 year old.
2006-11-28 04:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's comlpetely normal......never ever give in once you do it will never stop...you think a whining 4 year old is unpleasant try adding ten years!
2006-11-28 00:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by kardea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me know when you find out. Mine are 8 and 12 and still whine. Girls tend to be whiners.
2006-11-28 02:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋