No one in the freakin' world could love me more than this man but he drives me insane! He honestly needs to stop being so obsessive. I tell him but it hurts his feelings. He thinks I'm the rude one!
2006-11-28 00:25:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't mistake insecurity and possessiveness for his love for you. I was that guy long ago and it was more important to me to cover up my insecurities than it was to love my ex. After much pain, I found out that being a man means overcoming those feelings, not letting them control me, and express my love through positive ways.
The fact is that when anyone act jealous or obsessive they are doing it for their own selfish reasons. That is not an expression of love. Just tell him that every time he acts that way he is doing the opposite of what he thinks he is doing, that he is driving you away, not bringing you closer.
2006-11-28 00:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m a male, and it`s normal to be jealous and insecure at times, but not to the point of obsessive. Personally it tells me I have deep feelings for this girl and to learn to trust her. If you don`t it will cause problems in the relationship. I`ve dated women who were obsessive,and the bottom line was I had to end the relationship, after I communicated that they were to obsessive. These people very rarely change. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-28 00:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by jamesanderson22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then u need to tell him to get help or leave .because if u stay with him its just gona make ur life more miserable and unhappy for the rest of ur life .but if u really love him then thats ur choice.the reason why a guy like him is like that it's because hes been proberly been hurt in the past from others or family or hes been brought up differen'tly .how do i know its because i had a boyfriend like that but even more worse .and i gave him 4chances because i belieave and love him very much but he didint want to change or get help so i told him to leave.because he was making me more miserable and unhappy and he kept me away from my family and friends and smashed my mobiles and was very very jealous and insecure of whos txting and whos calling and where i was going and who i was with even thou i proof it to him.hes hit me alot all the time for no reason at all .when his friends/family make him mad he would take it out on me because i was there and not them .and if he doesnt get his way he will still take out on me and blame me for everything aswell.so i know how u feel and what u are going through.and u are not the rude one ,its just him hes just looking for someone to blame thats all.hes got a big problem and if u dont tell him to get help or help him to get help then dont bother to stay with him ,because the nexttime he might hurt u,u dont know whats gona happen or come around the corner nexttime.so pls be very careful and good luck on that .u desreve better
2006-11-28 01:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by darkangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....hear this, what this man feels for you is not love....it is obsession.....love is selfless, and allows you to breath...not stifle you, or make you feel crazy to the point of being angry with the person.....for goodness sake this man is suffocating you...how can you stand this?....you both need to have a serious talk about what this is doing to you....if you leave it things can become very unhealthy in this relationship.....it needs to be sorted fast.
2006-11-28 00:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you're doing what you may and he shouldn't experience insecure. I even have dealtt with this and found the guy i replaced into with had an exceedingly controlling mom who gave him a feeling of in no way being sturdy sufficient, so he persevered to experience that way in his life. I even have used supportive concepts alongside with being very open, constantly coping with him up (announcing beneficial issues approximately him in front of others) and this has helped. it rather is recommended to contemplate couples counseling. sturdy good fortune!
2016-12-17 17:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by vanderlinden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling....and it will only get worse as the relationship progresses. He may in fact love you....but jealously and insecurity are not attributes of love. If you marry him - it WILL get worse and it could turn into something abusive - trust me I have been there. Get out now - you may love eachother, but it's an unhealthy kind of love. Sorry.
2006-11-28 00:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be really rude and break up with him. This man can be dangerous. Take care!! That's not healthy for both.
2006-11-28 00:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Violeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you belong to him and that you want no one but him.tell him if he will be like that always you will get tired of defending yourself constantly and leave him out of shear emotional exhaustion
2006-11-28 01:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you tell him you love him...make him feel secure.
2006-11-28 00:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by dan d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋