I always suspect my ability,i have poor confidance.how to get rid of such condition?

Question

i do't dare to go lower,i have ability but some time i easily lose my confidance&could't do anything.I think i have any psyco. problem,not only this but i delay my work unnecessarily also.do you have any good approach to solve this problem.I used to be an intelligent student but now my performance is not good, i m doing mba but suspect.Age 27years.male

Answer 1

Consider starting a journal. Write down 3 statements each day that are true about you, that are wholely positive, and that are about things that you are, or things that you can do. Such as - I can read. I am a helpful person. I can change the oil in a car's engine. (These are true - about me.) Try to write down 3 new things each day - but if you can't think of anything new, re-read your prior pages and write ones you have already written. It works to help you understand yourself and you will see what good is in you.

Also, if you have a blood sugar imbalance called hypoglycemia, this will contribute to low self esteem. There is basic information at www.hufa.org. Procrastination (delaying work until the last possible moment), I believe, is also a symptom. You sound like me (except I am a female), as I was at your age.

Answer 2

I have the same problem, and here's what's helping me: (WARNING: It sounds stupid)

1. When you wake up in the morning, say to yourself, "Hey, I get to do all this awesome stuff today!" Go to a mirror, look at yourself, and pep-talk. Heya, sexy. Looking good. Let's go learn something, man! I'm pretty good at this whole student thing. Et cetera.

2. Put some Post-its up on your walls with statements like, "I'm cool," and, "People like me." Seeing these will eventually reinforce it.

3. Keep a record of the things you did that you're proud of. On the first page, write all the good things about you. You're loyal, honest, have green eyes, can run fast, whatever. Then, every day before you go to bed, write down what you did that day that you're glad you did. You got a good grade, you called your mother, you showed up somewhere on time, and you told a great joke that day. Keep it on hand so whenever you start to feel depressed, you can flip it open and read it.

3. Push the negative thoughts away. This can be difficult. If you start thinking, "Oh man, I'm such a screw-up," instantly replace that with, "No, I'm not a screw-up. I made a mistake; so what? Einstein made mistakes. DaVinci made mistakes. I make mistakes. I'm in good company." Imagine the core of yourself as a ball of energy glowing in your favorite color. Build a fortress around it to keep the negative thoughts out, and when negative thoughts attack, run inside your fortress and imagine shooting all the negative thoughts in to little bits. Be detailed.

4. Think about all the people who care about you. Your friends and family, say. Would they like you if you weren't worth their time? No. That in itself is proof that you have plenty of self-worth.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

God is the Great Healer. He has all the answers for our problems.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)

Answer 4

This is a very good blog, a beginner’s guide to abnormal psychology.
Short, clear and simple; and you can even post your question and contact the author regarding particular subject you are interested in, for FREE

http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/

Answer 5

look nobody is perfect. we all sometimes lose confidence in our abilities. but uve got to convince yourself that u can do it. believe in yourself. thats the only way. never lose hope, come what may, thats the motto of my life

Answer 6

i would say just to believe in yourself. i know its cliched, but its true. if you believe that you are good enough to do something, you will do better at it. just try to boost your confidence by doing things you know your good at, and then move on to things you need more help with. if you really need help, ASK! no one will mind that you need help. just trust yourself.

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