Should a teen who is punished by his dad often with the belt or looking in or out in the backyard report his dad or would be any other way to make him change ?
2006-11-28 00:06:08 · 6 answers · asked by Rebel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a stepmom and cuz shes not my real mom (who i lost when i was lil) she feels she cant interfere too much over my dads decisions about me
2006-11-28 00:18:31 · update #1
That's a really tough one hon. Dad should never use extreme physical force, no matter what the teen is doing. I have a preteen-teen myself and gee sometimes I just want to body slam him, but he's my child. To harm him in a way that I couldn't even harm my enemies is unacceptable. If I get that angry I walk away. You should try talking to a councillor first in confidence and tell them in no way are they to act on your behalf. Sometimes good intentioned people make it worse for you. You are the only one in this situation I don't know how the rest of the family will react to you reporting your father to Child Services. Try talking to mom, siblings etc. tell them your fed up with this kind of abuse and you might do something to prevent it in the future. Two things will happen your father will either change or beat you. If he changes then your mission was to educate him on how treat other human beings especially his own children. If he beats you, report him.
O.K. stepmom, didn't now that yet it shouldn't change much. She may not want to interfer with your fathers way of dicipline but as a human being she should be able to dicipher between dicipline and abuse. No human being should sit idling by while someone else is abused not matter who the abuser is. That justifies nothing hon. Talk to someone you trust immediately and see if they have way to help you get out of this now. Only when you step away from this hurtful situation can you yourself clearly see what needs to be done. You need to find a way to maybe help your father see that maybe his issues aren't with you but maybe the loss of your bio mom. Regardless he's got to figure that out for himself. Your priority should be your safety and well being at this point. so do what it takes to get out.
2006-11-28 00:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sassymama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to make a father change, even if he says he will. He's lying, the teen shouldn't even bother talking to him to change, it's gonna go nowhere. Best option is to report the father.
She is your stepmom so she should say something. The longer she is your stepmom the more she should say. I think she's just too scared to interfere.
2006-11-28 08:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a serious step to take - a path once down you can't just change your mind. Social services is not my first choice. where is mom in all of this? Have you talked to other family members about this. Don't get ss involved until it's absolutely necessary. Talk to another family memeber - and I am sure there is so much more to this story.....communication is the key - gather your thoughts and facts and talk to someone about this in your family. If they won't listen.....then talk to someone at your school.
2006-11-28 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being physically abused, you need to talk to an adult immediately. Can you talk to your mother or a techer or principal? Any one of those people will be able to help you out and are obligated to help you fill out a report.
If you feel like someone can't help you,go straight to the police. There is no reason you should live in fear.
2006-11-28 08:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
report him abuse is NOT ok
2006-11-28 11:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
2006-11-28 08:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by WT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋