i'm doing my best for my parents to be proud of me.. studying hard.. but why is it that they don't show that they appreciate my efforts? it seems like they don't care.. but if i commit just one tiny mistake...they get hysterical so much like all im doing are bad stuffs.. im tired... what should i do?
2006-11-28 00:05:48 · 8 answers · asked by kawensky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In general, it seems like it is much easier for us to point out when someone does something wrong than to acknowledge and thank them for when they do everyday things (like studying) well. I hope that you are finding some kind of affirmation of your good work (for example: from teachers). I also hope that your parents will recognize how you want to make them proud. That is a desire of all parents and it's great that you want to make them happy. From your description, it sounds as though they can't see the wonderful child right in front of them. Continue doing what you are doing, knowing that you are doing good work, you want them to be proud of you, and you want to be a good person. All of us will screw up and make mistakes, but it is my hope for you that your parents will affirm you in who you are and what you do. You're trying hard to show them how much you love them. I hope they do the same for you. Regardless of how they respond, continue to love them, continue to be a good child, continue to do well in school. I also want you to know that I affirm you! You're a great person. Keep up the good work also.
2006-11-28 00:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably is your mis-conception!!! Because they love you, they want you to be the best and without any flaws. True! They may not express their appreciation in public to you but parents always is a parent only telling too many "NO" s and too little appreciation. When you become a parent, you also will be like this !!!Its good that you only feel "unappreciated" but some go to the extent of feeling totally depressed!!!
2006-11-28 08:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that your parents are making you feel unappreciated. keep doing well in school....do it for yourself. remember you will be grown soon. when you get married and have children make sure you value them. break the circle of making your children feel bad for their mistakes. keep your head up and others will appreciate you. good luck.
2006-11-28 08:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are just that way. My dad has never said any thing nice or a compliments me to my face. But I will get introduce or meet one of his friends, and WOW my dad speaks SO HIGHLY of me, I couldn't believe my hears. So that's just who they are.Its not you. its ALL THEM. just know they know and they care, that's why the respond to the dump things. That's their way. I am sorry I know how it is and how it feels. But they are VERY PROUD of YOU, ask one of their friends.
2006-11-28 08:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be tired becoz its just a trial in your life that will make your personality stronger. Maybe your parents are not vocal to their feelings but it is sure that they are proud of you...
2006-11-28 08:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by mariefel q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there lady......i went thru the same thing and felt the same way......after it was all over, i realised that they did it for my own good. Couldnt understand it then but i do now. It'll be fine soon hun
2006-11-28 08:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents ask them maybe they havent noticed this and if u point it out they will be more sincer
2006-11-28 08:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by laura j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it reall depends on mistake huh??
2006-11-28 08:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋