My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and 2 months, he is not the anniversary type of guy, but he does sometimes make a fuss about birthdays. Due to work issue, we have been in a long distance relationship for 16 months, during this time, we keep in touch pretty often. He is not a guy who is very good with birthdays and stuff, he can even forget about his family's birthday. But the thing is, we had made plans for November since it is the time for my birthday and it's also the time for Earthcore (Trance music festival in Australia), and again, due to work issue, I couldn't organise a trip back to Australia in November, we almost break up because of that. Seeing November is such a big deal to him, I would think he would remember my birthday afterall, but this is not the case, and I am pretty upset about it. Should I be?
2006-11-27 23:54:46 · 28 answers · asked by devviash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1ST of all Happy birthday,
im very sorry to hear that he forgot you birthday, he should not of forgot, you have every reason t be angry, although there is still time so maybe you should hold out??. and wait, if by tomorrow, yes you should be angry although i think your brave to hold out so long, long distance yes you should be upset, x hope you have a good day regardless.
2006-11-28 00:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Dewiash, seems you have a lot going on in this question, firstly you already acknowledge that hes not good with birthdays and anniversaries...It doesn't sound like he did it on purpose...if you really wanted him to remember then you should have included that statement in your plans like " In November for my birthday when we go to the festival" that way he would have started to associate it together. Secondly...he seems like the sort of guy that would just prefer to spend time with someone and forget all the flowers and cards etc..thats probably why the near breakup...so..I guess you have to ask yourself if forgetting the birthday is a big enough issue to break up over...because seems to me...you getting close to that .
2006-11-28 00:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset about the distance between you - it's not going to work out. And I would be upset about him forgetting your birthday, but hey, sounds like your relationship is not going to last anyway - sorry. Happy Birthday to you though from NH, USA!
2006-11-27 23:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously bothered by it if you're asking this question. You shouldn't be mad but I'd definitely be disappointed. Especially after being with each other for 3 years, even if he is away, he should have at least picked up the phone and said Happy Birthday. Hopefully he'll make up for it.
2006-11-28 00:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okayy to be truthful, i imagine all of us recognize(a minimum of we would want to recognize) that easily everyone makes blunders, and it truly is one among them. i'm constructive he cares alot about you.. no doubt about that. He will be planning ahead on a wonder for you.. who's conscious. yet you cant chop up over a ingredient like that.. i advise come on after what you adult males have happening, which will be a large mistake!! also i truly imagine that he will purchase you something magnificent on monday. You adult males look like an fairly compatable couple and infrequently at the same time as issues come alongside like this, you purely might want to forgive and ignore,(what might want to jesus do)
2016-10-07 21:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to be upset about it. But don't let it ruin your day. I'm sure he'll make it up to you once he realizes his shortcoming.
Don't feel so bad. I know some people who sometimes forget even their own birthdays!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
2006-11-28 00:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by redlion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he messes up then there is no point in getting upset. Make a decision- do you want a guy that has better things to do than sit and look at a calendar all day? or not?
btw, since bianca is the only one that caught the que......
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
2006-11-27 23:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be upset, your birthday comes once a year,
and since you've been dating three years its no excuse for that.
When his birthday comes don't buy a card, don't buy a gift , don't even say Happy Birthday. I'll bet you that he'll remind you, nobody wants to feel forgotten about
2006-11-28 00:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by val l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband rarely remembers my birthday, anniversary, sweetest day. I figure he just doesn't give a hoot about me. Guys always remember their girlfriends unless they don't give a hoot about them either. I don't think your long distance relationship is working out.
2006-11-27 23:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he wasnt good with birthdays so you cant be upset if he forgets yours. besides would you like the time you spend talking to him be and upset or forget about it and remember the good things and have a good time talking to him
2006-11-27 23:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋