How to cope with pressure in college?

Question

Everytime I come back to college from home, I end up feeling pressured and its internal because I feel like I have to live up to the standards that my parents have set and I don't want to fail them. Failing them would be the worst thing to ever happen to me. I am not sure if its a psychological disorder, or if im depressed, because i dont think i am... but i just dont know how to deal with the stress of expectations from others
what is wrong with me and what do i do?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with you! You are a normal person with your own feelings, goals and strengths. Check with your student services or student health department. You can get a counselor who can help you sort things out. They deal with this problem all the time. If your parent's expectations are not in line with your goals in life, the counselor can help you decide what you need to do and how to deal with your parents.

Although your parents mean well (and may be paying for your colleg education!), they are holding you back if their expectations are keeping you from doing what you really want to in life (as long as it's moral and legal, you can't expect your parents to support the goal of partying all the time!). Better to sort it out now than 20 years down the line after you went to med school (or whatever) and spent years in a career you do not have any interest in or get any pleasure out of.

Failure is ok and it is a learning experience. Some of the greatest failures have turned into successes. If you can avoid it by doing something you really are interested in and have talent at, go for it.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with you. It's completely normal to feel pressure from your parents to do well in college. Here are some tips to help you deal with it and alleviate some of the stress you're feeling: (1) Don't set the bar too high. Very few people go through college and get straight A's. You're bound to take at least one class that you're going to really struggle with, so don't beat yourself up if you have difficulty with a particular subject. (2) If you have trouble in any given class, ask your professor for help. You may be able to get tutoring or one-on-one time with the professor. Don't ignore it when you hit a rough spot in the road -- it won't go away. (3) Do the best job that you can. Getting straight A's should NOT be your goal. If you get straight A's, GREAT!!! If not, you should be satisfied with yourself as long as you gave it your best effort. (4) Be sure to take breaks during the stressful times, like around exam week or right before a major project is due. Locking yourself in your room and forcing yourself to work on something or study for a test is not always the best way to prepare. Sometimes you just need to let off a little steam, and you're only harming yourself if you don't. (5) Remember that you're going to school for YOU first. You're working toward your future; NOT your parents' future. Instead of worrying about failing your parents, think about doing a good job so you'll have a good academic record, which will make prospective employers want to hire you. (6) Most importantly, believe in yourself. If you're constantly worrying about failure you'll start believing that you will fail or that you are a failure. Not true. You only truly fail if you give up. Keep telling yourself that you CAN do it. Again, you may not get straight A's, but as long as you're doing your best you're OK.

Good luck!

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with you, we all have felt that way. You just need to understand that there are people out there that are willing to help you. Talk to your parents about your feelings of stress due to trying to attain standards that you feel that they set. More than likely they never intended to set any standard that would put this much stress on you, and probably want you to be happy more than stressed. Talk to your college counselors and get help through your school, you are paying for it USE IT. They should have facilities, counselors, and fellow students who can help you through this.

Answer 4

Give yourself breaks from all of the hard work and stresses, find out what is bothering you so much and try to fix it. Most colleges have counselors, try seeing one. Or you could see a Psychologist or psychiatrist and get help from them. But treat yourself right so you will feel good and do well in college! God bless you sweetheart and good luck! :)

Answer 5

Your a solid pupil and that makes you concious of your marks. you will do properly for the reason which you decide directly to do properly, do no longer rigidity your self out bypass to a movie and relax you would be effective!